A father needs to exercise his rights as a parent. Now, we speak high-conflict post-divorce, not that it would really come into play if indeed the father has had the opportunity to exercise his parenting rights during the course of the litigation.
No matter how much Mom and Dad are fighting, that parent, that father, needs to make sure that throughout the high-conflict litigation that he is indeed seeing his children, interacting with his children – spending as much time as he can with those kids during that litigation. Don’t stay away during the litigation.
Be involved throughout the entire process. No matter how nasty the divorce might be for the parents, the children at least would know that Mom and Dad, but particularly in this case Dad, are there. Then after the divorce, that relationship between father and children will only just get better.
Rosalyn Charles is a family lawyer practicing in Newark, New Jersey.