We understand that bitter memories linger on, and the good ones tend to hide in some remote corner of our mind. For couples who divorce, nothing is more painful than to experience overwhelming emotions associated with memories of a bitter past.
It is not a bad idea to take control of the negative impact of these memories—and shake off the fatigue and frustration they bring along. Deliberate efforts to steer clear of the painful memories will not only liberate you but light up a path to a world of opportunities.
We would like to do our bit and nudge our readers in that direction! That’s why we asked them to travel down the memory lane and come up with the best thing they recall about their ex!
We posted the question ‘Keeping it positive: What’s the best thing you can say about your ex?’ on DivorceMag’s Facebook page. The responses evoke emotions and show we all have the gift to salvage positivity even from trauma like divorce.
What is the Best Thing You Can Say About Your Ex?
Here’s what they had to say:
Tresha Wallace: One of the best things I can say about my ex is that he has evolved, a better father and became a better person.
Gayeann Gosselin: Two beautiful kids
Ronnie Li: He’s a great person, husband, and father
Donna Saccente: Gave me my 2 beautiful sons …
Sam Marie: He helped me create an adorable son
Connie Nunes: We had 5 beautiful kids!
Lisa Andrews Holt: He’s financially responsible, he’s good to our daughter
Janice Adams: He didn’t make me work if I didn’t want to so I could stay home with the kids and be a SAHM and he made plenty that we lived very well.
Jessica Dax: He loves our kids
Jennifer Nelson: He gave me my son.
Amy Clay: He is a fun dad.
Sara Coombes: He’s a good father.
Kirsten Marsh: That he plays really well with our 7-year-old son…. because he also behaves like a 7-year-old
Silence Taylor: He is brilliant. Super smart. An amazing father.
Fe Wilkins: Thoughtful.
Jessica Wilhelm: I got to be a stay-at-home-mom for 20 years. I cherish those years, so I’m grateful he stayed that long.
Dawn Lewis: I got nothing.
Kathleen Casey: Every Saturday he cleaned the house from top to bottom. Even though he complained all through it. It got done!! Lol!!
Ann Prusinowski: Smith he is mighty handy.
Tiffany Lynne: He’s GONE. Not my monkey. Not my circus.
Kalyn Block: He has a good heart.
Sandra Bellinger: He’s gone.
Donald Macleay: She is a good parent
Nisar Ahmed Irani: Memory power, Subject knowledge, Prays sincerely… Hospitality
Jou Jou Johnson: He is nice when he is not drunk.
Kyra Ozuna: He’s tall
Carol Kinsey: he’s gone!
Karen Lyn: He looked after me well and I believed he loved me.
Danielle Marie: He believes he’s a good person so I guess that’s something.
Nyisha Boyd: Nothing.
Lisa Heintzelman: I never hit em w my car
Mary Honderich: He’s intelligent. That’s why I fell for him
Syed Faisal Shakeel has been a multimedia journalist for 21 years in Pakistan. He has covered courts, politics, and insurgency in the mountainous region between Pakistan and Afghanistan. He has worked with international news organizations like the Los Angeles Times, CBS (Columbia Broadcasting System), BBC World and the Times of India. He loves spending time with his daughter and toys with his guitar. Currently, he is working with Divorced Moms. You can connect with him on Twitter.