Look at your current relationship and note whether or not any or all of the following apply:
If you are thinking about leaving a destructive disturbing or otherwise unworkable relationship know you’ll most likely always struggle with claiming a sense of self while with this person. It will zap you of your energy and for all your effort you’ll still feel a sense of loss and emptiness. If your partner agrees to couples therapy and both of you are sincerely interested in making positive changes then go for it.
Just be prepared that it might not work and in the end you’ll need to get out so you can begin living a normal life.
Remember to expect respect. It takes practice, and trust in yourself, to know when something someone says to you, or wants you to do, isn’t right. Stand up for yourself and realize you have great value. Don’t let other people push you around, embarrass, or in some other way make you feel inferior. People who are cruel to you are not worth having in your life.
Above all, don’t be so dependent on another person, that the value you place on yourself is determined by the attention they pay to you. You are a separate person!
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