There are so many benefits for children when you stay out of court. When you use mediation or collaborative divorce, number one, you as parents, not a judge, have the power to make custody decisions like how much time your children spend with each of you, where they will attend school and worship, where your children will receive medical care, and what extracurricular activities they’ll pursue.
Number two, throughout this process and beyond, your children see their parents cooperating and they don’t feel that they have to choose sides.
Number three, you forego a custody battle. So instead of the fighting, the stress, and tension that your kids can feel, and spending money on legal fees, you will be able to more quickly and efficiently focus on creating a stable new life for your children, working together with your child’s other co-parent.
Bari Zell Weinberger is the owner and managing partner of Weinberger Divorce & Family Law Group in New Jersey. She is certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney.