Make a list of things you enjoy doing and try to work in one or two of those activities a week, such as shooting hoops with friends or working on a hobby or project. Enjoyable tasks will help to ground you in the understanding that there is life after divorce. Don’t engage in unnecessary bickering with your spouse. These fights are almost never worth having. Be the bigger person by not engaging. When communicating with a spouse is necessary for parenting time swaps or other kid-related matters, try sticking to neutral text messages to reduce risk for conflict.
Keep your mind and body healthy by doing your best to get adequate sleep and exercise. Don’t drink or drug-induce your way through your issues. You need a clear head and steady emotions. Drinking or drug use can impact certain aspects of divorce, including child custody. Seeing a therapist can teach you valuable emotional coping skills.
Everyone needs to know that there is no shame in seeking therapeutic support to help deal with this time of transition.
Bari Zell Weinberger is the owner and managing partner of Weinberger Law Group in New Jersey. She is Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney.