Previous Divorce Magazine Polls

The worst part of my divorce is/was:
Poll Closed: Mar. 30, 2015

It went on for too long: 47.09% (81 votes)
The emotional and/or physical costs: 19.19% (33 votes)
The negative impact on my children: 13.37% (23 votes)
The financial costs: 9.30% (16 votes)
I did not get my fair share (unfair laws, or bad professional advice): 2.91% (5 votes)
The complexity of the process: 2.33% (4 votes)
Total Votes: 172

The main reason for my divorce was/is:
Poll Closed: Dec 13, 2013
FOR MEN:
  FOR WOMEN:
My wife wanted the divorce.
21 votes 21 votes
Money problems.
12 votes 12 votes
Communication problems.
8 votes 8 votes
Children's issues.
3 votes 3 votes
Infidelity.
15 votes 15 votes
Basic incompatibility.
20 votes 20 votes
Emotional and/or physical abuse.
12 votes 12 votes
Addiction and/or alcoholism issues.
2 votes 2 votes
Other
5 votes 5 votes

98 total votes
  My husband wanted the divorce.
10 votes 10 votes
Money problems.
16 votes 16 votes
Communication problems.
11 votes 11 votes
Children's issues.
4 votes 4 votes
Infidelity.
19 votes 19 votes
Basic incompatibility.
14 votes 14 votes
Emotional and/or physical abuse.
16 votes 16 votes
Addiction and/or alcoholism issues.
8 votes 8 votes
Other
6 votes 6 votes

104 total votes
Are you the spouse who filed for divorce?
Poll Closed: Jul 10, 2013
FOR MEN:
  FOR WOMEN:
Yes
83 votes 83 votes
No
81 votes 81 votes
My ex and I filed at the same time.
24 votes 24 votes

188 total votes
  Yes
187 votes 187 votes
No
89 votes 89 votes
My ex and I filed at the same time.
29 votes 29 votes

305 total votes
If you PAY spousal support, do you think the amount is:
Poll Closed: Jun 1, 2012

FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Reasonable.
21 votes 21 votes
Unreasonable, but I can live with it.
21 votes 21 votes
Unreasonable, but not worth the money to fight it.
34 votes 34 votes
Unreasonable, and I'm going to/am doing something about it.
31 votes 31 votes

107 total votes
  Reasonable.
1 votes 1 votes
Unreasonable, but I can live with it.
3 votes 3 votes
Unreasonable, but not worth the money to fight it.
3 votes 3 votes
Unreasonable, and I'm going to/am doing something about it.
3 votes 3 votes

10 total votes
If you RECEIVE spousal support, do you think the amount is:
Poll Closed: Jun 1, 2012
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Reasonable
9 votes 9 votes
Unreasonable, but I can live with it.
1 votes 1 votes
Unreasonable, but not worth the money to fight it.
3 votes 3 votes
Unreasonable, and I'm going to/am doing something about it.
4 votes 4 votes

17 total votes
  Reasonable.
28 votes 28 votes
Unreasonable, but I can live with it.
18 votes 18 votes
Unreasonable, but not worth the money to fight it.
23 votes 23 votes
Unreasonable, and I'm going to/am doing something about it.
17 votes 17 votes

86 total votes
Are you satisfied with your child custody arrangement?
Poll Closed: Oct 13, 2011
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Yes - I got what I asked for.
63 votes 63 votes
Somewhat - It was an acceptable compromise.
63 votes 63 votes
No - It's unfair.
192 votes 192 votes

318 total votes
  Yes - I got what I asked for.
93 votes 93 votes
Somewhat - It was an acceptable compromise.
44 votes 44 votes
No - It's unfair.
46 votes 46 votes

183 total votes
The main reason for my divorce was/is:
Poll Closed: Oct 13, 2011
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
My wife wanted the divorce.
66 votes 66 votes
Money problems.
14 votes 14 votes
Communication problems.
34 votes 34 votes
Children's issues.
2 votes 2 votes
Infidelity.
57 votes 57 votes
Basic incompatibility.
39 votes 39 votes
Emotional and/or physical abuse.
27 votes 27 votes
Addiction and/or alcoholism issues.
12 votes 12 votes
Other.
18 votes 18 votes

269 total votes
  My husband wanted the divorce.
67 votes 67 votes
Money problems.
13 votes 13 votes
Communication problems.
43 votes 43 votes
Children's issues.
3 votes 3 votes
Infidelity.
105 votes 105 votes
Basic incompatibility
40 votes 40 votes
Emotional and/or physical abuse.
58 votes 58 votes
Addiction and/or alcoholism issues.
29 votes 29 votes
Other.
17 votes 17 votes

375 total votes
Have you ever been unfaithful to your partner?
Poll Closed: Oct 12, 2010
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
No, never.
386 votes 386 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful once.
53 votes 53 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful 2 - 4 times.
78 votes 78 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful 5 - 9 times.
21 votes 21 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful 10 or more times.
57 votes 57 votes

595 total votes
  No, never.
303 votes 303 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful once.
50 votes 50 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful 2 - 4 times.
42 votes 42 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful 5 - 9 times.
10 votes 10 votes
Yes, I have been unfaithful 10 or more times.
17 votes 17 votes

422 total votes
Do you think that 50/50 custody should be the starting point in divorce law, and only adjusted based on special circumstances (e.g. abuse)?
Poll Closed: May 31, 2010
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
NO
53 votes 53 votes
YES
399 votes 399 votes

452 total votes
  NO
254 votes 254 votes
YES
460 votes 460 votes

714 total votes
Will you be spending time with your children this holiday season?
Poll Closed: Jan 13, 2010
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Yes, I have my child/children most of the time.
18 votes 18 votes
Yes, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.
17 votes 17 votes
No, I have my child/children most of the time.
No votes
No, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.
13 votes 13 votes

48 total votes
  Yes, I have my child/children most of the time.
67 votes 67 votes
Yes, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.
7 votes 7 votes
No, I have my child/children most of the time.
5 votes 5 votes
No, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.
8 votes 8 votes

87 total votes
Do you plan to hire a lawyer for your divorce?
Poll Closed: Sep 30, 2009
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
I plan to hire a divorce lawyer but haven't done so yet.
14 votes 14 votes
I've already selected or hired a divorce lawyer.
13 votes 13 votes
I haven't hired, nor do I plan to hire, a divorce lawyer.
16 votes 16 votes

43 total votes
  I plan to hire a divorce lawyer but haven't done so yet.
8 votes 8 votes
I've already selected or hired a divorce lawyer.
12 votes 12 votes
I haven't hired, nor do I plan to hire, a divorce lawyer.
15 votes 15 votes

35 total votes
Do you plan to hire a lawyer for your divorce?
Poll Closed: Sep 30, 2009
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Yes
63 votes 63 votes
No
42 votes 42 votes
No opinion
3 votes 3 votes

108 total votes
  Yes
83 votes 83 votes
No
32 votes 32 votes
No opinion
6 votes 6 votes

121 total votes
When looking for a lawyer for my divorce, the first place I would go to is
Poll Closed: May 22, 2008
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
the internet
9 votes 9 votes
friends/relatives
7 votes 7 votes
the yellow pages
2 votes 2 votes
local newspapers/magazines
No votes
local bar association
1 votes 1 votes
others
5 votes 5 votes

24 total votes
  the internet
12 votes 12 votes
friends/relatives
27 votes 27 votes
the yellow pages
2 votes 2 votes
local newspapers/magazines
1 votes 1 votes
local bar association
6 votes 6 votes
others
5 votes 5 votes

53 total votes
Would you sleep with your ex after your divorce?
Poll Closed: Dec 31, 2007
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Yes
125 votes 125 votes
No
135 votes 135 votes
Don't know
31 votes 31 votes

291 total votes
  Yes
55 votes 55 votes
No
180 votes 180 votes
Don't know
26 votes 26 votes

261 total votes
How long did you (or will you) wait after your divorce to start dating again?
Poll Closed: Jul 18, 2007
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Immediately
164 votes 164 votes
1 to 3 months
88 votes 88 votes
3 to 6 months
83 votes 83 votes
6 to 12 months
106 votes 106 votes
More than 1 year
294 votes 294 votes

735 total votes
  Immediately
113 votes 113 votes
1 to 3 months
48 votes 48 votes
3 to 6 months
36 votes 36 votes
6 to 12 months
45 votes 45 votes
More than 1 year
98 votes 98 votes

340 total votes
What caused your separation/divorce? (Choose the strongest factor)
Poll Closed: Oct 31, 2006
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Money problems
30 votes 30 votes
Communication problems
118 votes 118 votes
Basic incompatibility
132 votes 132 votes
Infidelity
92 votes 92 votes
Emotional or physical abuse
55 votes 55 votes
One spouse was a workaholic
11 votes 11 votes
Drug addiction/alcoholism
25 votes 25 votes
Stress of home renovations
7 votes 7 votes
Changes in appearance
11 votes 11 votes

481 total votes
  Money problems
67 votes 67 votes
Communication problems
209 votes 209 votes
Basic incompatibility
144 votes 144 votes
Infidelity
253 votes 253 votes
Emotional or physical abuse
199 votes 199 votes
One spouse was a workaholic
32 votes 32 votes
Drug addiction/alcoholism
91 votes 91 votes
Stress of home renovations
13 votes 13 votes
Changes in appearance
25 votes 25 votes

1033 total votes
Before your separation/divorce, who was responsible for handling money matters (e.g., selecting and writing checks for insurance, mortgage, loans, credit cards, regular household bills, etc.)?
Poll Closed: May 19, 2005
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
I handled all of it
1738 votes 1738 votes
I handled most of it
657 votes 657 votes
We shared the tasks equally
327 votes 327 votes
She handled most of it
542 votes 542 votes
She handled all of it
537 votes 537 votes

3801 total votes
  I handled all of it
1433 votes 1433 votes
I handled most of it
563 votes 563 votes
We shared the tasks equally
364 votes 364 votes
He handled most of it
611 votes 611 votes
He handled all of it
1520 votes 1520 votes

4491 total votes
Would you consider dating a single parent with joint or full custody of school-aged children?
Poll Closed: Feb 13, 2004
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Yes. I'm a single parent, too.
302 votes 302 votes
Yes. I have no dependant children.
119 votes 119 votes
No -- although I'm a single parent myself.
158 votes 158 votes
No: I have no dependant children.
323 votes 323 votes

902 total votes
  Yes. I'm a single parent, too.
435 votes 435 votes
Yes. I have no dependant children.
187 votes 187 votes
No -- although I'm a single parent myself.
172 votes 172 votes
No: I have no dependant children.
357 votes 357 votes

1151 total votes
Do you use the Internet to check out professionals before hiring them?
Poll Closed: Nov 27, 2003
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Always. I want to know as much as possible about the person and/or firm.
141 votes 141 votes
Sometimes. If it's a serious project/job, I check them out.
96 votes 96 votes
Never. I rely on other sources to help me make the right decision.
100 votes 100 votes

337 total votes
  Always. I want to know as much as possible about the person and/or firm.
179 votes 179 votes
Sometimes. If it's a serious project/job, I check them out.
122 votes 122 votes
Never. I rely on other sources to help me make the right decision.
97 votes 97 votes

398 total votes
Would you consider a "nesting" custody arrangement? In nesting, the children of divorced parents live in the family home while their parents take turns moving in and out.
Poll Closed: Feb 13, 2004
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Yes: I would consider it.
333 votes 333 votes
Yes: I am currently nesting.
13 votes 13 votes
No: I would not consider it
502 votes 502 votes
No: I tried it, and it didn't work.
23 votes 23 votes

871 total votes
  Yes: I would consider it.
371 votes 371 votes
Yes: I am currently nesting.
20 votes 20 votes
No: I would not consider it
975 votes 975 votes
No: I tried it, and it didn't work.
28 votes 28 votes

1394 total votes
If you could change the past, would you still be getting (or have gotten) divorced?
Poll Closed: Aug 7, 2003
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
No. Divorce was the WRONG decision.
224 votes 224 votes
Yes: Divorce was the RIGHT decision.
266 votes 266 votes

490 total votes
  No. Divorce was the WRONG decision.
205 votes 205 votes
Yes: Divorce was the RIGHT decision.
402 votes 402 votes

607 total votes
Do you believe that marriage is a life-long commitment that should only be ended under extreme circumstances?
Poll Closed: Mar 28, 2003
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
No. People change and grow apart over time, and you shouldn't be trapped in an unhappy marriage.
264 votes 264 votes
Maybe. People should try harder to save their marriage before divorcing, though.
324 votes 324 votes
Yes. I've never been married, and I believe marriage should be for life.
312 votes 312 votes
Yes. I'm separated/divorced, but I still believe marriage should be for life.
336 votes 336 votes

1236 total votes
  No. People change and grow apart over time, and you shouldn't be trapped in an unhappy marriage.
356 votes 356 votes
Maybe. People should try harder to save their marriage before divorcing, though.
562 votes 562 votes
Yes. I've never been married, and I believe marriage should be for life.
333 votes 333 votes
Yes. I'm separated/divorced, but I still believe marriage should be for life.
521 votes 521 votes

1772 total votes
When should you start dating again?
Poll Closed: Jan 15, 2003
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
As soon as you're separated.
375 votes 375 votes
Six to twelve months after separation.
149 votes 149 votes
Not until the divorce is final.
388 votes 388 votes
Never: I've had it with relationships!
66 votes 66 votes

978 total votes
  As soon as you're separated.
132 votes 132 votes
Six to twelve months after separation.
239 votes 239 votes
Not until the divorce is final.
388 votes 388 votes
Never: I've had it with relationships!
66 votes 66 votes

825 total votes
Would you leave your partner if you discovered he/she were having an affair?
Poll Closed: Nov 29, 2002
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Yes. I have my reasons.
101 votes 101 votes
Yes. I'd never trust her again.
281 votes 281 votes
Maybe. I'd try marriage counseling first, though.
84 votes 84 votes
Maybe. I'm having an affair, too!
58 votes 58 votes
No. This relationship is better than being alone.
42 votes 42 votes
No. We have an 'open' marriage/relationship.
30 votes 30 votes

596 total votes
  Yes. I have my reasons.
122 votes 122 votes
Yes. I'd never trust him again.
423 votes 423 votes
Maybe. I'd try marriage counseling first, though.
344 votes 344 votes
Maybe. I'm having an affair, too!
42 votes 42 votes
No. This relationship is better than being alone.
24 votes 24 votes
No. We have an 'open' marriage/relationship.
19 votes 19 votes

974 total votes
What do you think the chances for a successful second marriage are?
Poll Closed: Oct 10, 2002
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
Great! I've learned from my mistakes and I'm more mature now
105 votes 105 votes
Better than the first. I now know what it takes to have a successful relationship
171 votes 171 votes
About the same as the first
104 votes 104 votes
Worse than the first. There's a lot more baggage now
98 votes 98 votes
Terrible! If the first marriage broke up, the second one will too
52 votes 52 votes

530 total votes
  Great! I've learned from my mistakes and I'm more mature now
126 votes 126 votes
Better than the first. I now know what it takes to have a successful relationship
285 votes 285 votes
About the same as the first
94 votes 94 votes
Worse than the first. There's a lot more baggage now
108 votes 108 votes
Terrible! If the first marriage broke up, the second one will too
39 votes 39 votes

652 total votes
Does living together (for more than one year) before marriage increase or reduce the chance of divorce?
Poll Closed: Aug 14, 2002
I lived with my spouse before marriage and we are now separated/divorced
306 votes 306 votes
I did not live with my spouse before marriage and we are now separated/divorced
227 votes 227 votes
I lived with my spouse before marriage and we are still married
111 votes 111 votes
I did not live with my spouse before marriage and we are still married
101 votes 101 votes

745 total votes
Which best describes your situation post-separation/divorce?
Poll Closed: Jul 4, 2002
I replaced some of the items (e.g., household goods, furniture, entertainment equipment, car, etc.) my ex-spouse kept when we split up
129 votes 129 votes
I replaced most of the items my ex-spouse kept
37 votes 37 votes
I replaced all of the items my ex-spouse kept
19 votes 19 votes
I replaced all of the items my ex-spouse kept, and I bought some items I've always wanted
126 votes 126 votes

311 total votes
When is the "right" time to have sex with a new partner?
Poll Closed: Jan 15, 2003
FOR MEN:   FOR WOMEN:
On the first date; if the sex is great, I might ask her out again
331 votes 331 votes
On the first date - but I wouldn't ask for a second date
57 votes 57 votes
After we're comfortable enough to discuss safe sex
528 votes 528 votes
After 3-6 months of dating
122 votes 122 votes
Not until we're engaged/married
154 votes 154 votes

1192 total votes
  On the first date - and I hope he'll call again
56 votes 56 votes
On the first date - but he probably won't call again
19 votes 19 votes
After we're comfortable enough to discuss safe sex (4-8 dates)
652 votes 652 votes
After 3-6 months of dating
360 votes 360 votes
Not until we're engaged/married
292 votes 292 votes

1379 total votes
What would you do if one of your friends started dating your ex?
Poll Closed: Mar 20, 2002
I'd try to get over my upset and re-establish our friendship
109 votes 109 votes
I'd try to be happy they found each other
253 votes 253 votes
I'd try to avoid speaking with them
258 votes 258 votes
I'd never speak to that so-called "friend" again
236 votes 236 votes

856 total votes
Since separation/divorce, have you considered cosmetic surgery (facelift, breast augmentation/reduction, hair replacement, liposuction, botox injections, etc.)?
Poll Closed: Jan 31, 2002
Yes, I've had it (female)
35 votes 35 votes
Yes, I'm considering it (female)
60 votes 60 votes
No, I have no interest (female)
121 votes 121 votes
Yes, I've had it (male)
14 votes 14 votes
Yes, I'm considering it (male)
35 votes 35 votes
No, I have no interest (male)
84 votes 84 votes

349 total votes
What is your coping strategy for dealing with holidays/special days (Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, etc.)?
Poll Closed: Dec 31, 2001
Go away for a vacation
31 votes 31 votes
See friends and/or family
207 votes 207 votes
Go out to bars/clubs
18 votes 18 votes
Start dating again
16 votes 16 votes
Watch TV/videos/DVDs
49 votes 49 votes
Stay in bed 'til it's over
71 votes 71 votes

392 total votes
What caused your separation/divorce? (Choose the strongest factor)
Poll Closed: Oct 31, 2001
Money problems
74 votes 74 votes
Communication problems
248 votes 248 votes
Basic incompatibility
176 votes 176 votes
Infidelity
330 votes 330 votes
Emotional or physical abuse
164 votes 164 votes
One spouse was a workaholic
32 votes 32 votes
Drug addiction/alcoholism
85 votes 85 votes
Drug addiction/alcoholism
9 votes 9 votes
Stress of home renovations
26 votes 26 votes

1144 total votes
What's the worst thing about being separated/divorced?
Poll Closed: Aug 28, 2001
The loneliness
238 votes 238 votes
Decreased standard of living/money
122 votes 122 votes
Lack of sex/physical contact
67 votes 67 votes
Loss of self-esteem
79 votes 79 votes
Losing friends
20 votes 20 votes
Fear of dating
41 votes 41 votes
Decreased contact with my kids
131 votes 131 votes
Decreased contact with my kids
76 votes 76 votes
Nothing: I love being single
No votes

774 total votes
What's the best thing about being separated/divorced?
Poll Closed: Jul 9, 2001
Freedom to be myself
163 votes 163 votes
Financial independence
15 votes 15 votes
Emotional independence
59 votes 59 votes
Sex with new partners
28 votes 28 votes
Not having to share anything
7 votes 7 votes
Relief from nagging
32 votes 32 votes
My home is tidy
10 votes 10 votes
My home is tidy
54 votes 54 votes
Nothing: I'd like to reconcile
No votes

368 total votes

Coping with the Holidays

What are your plans for coping with the holidays this year?

Going away (alone or with a new partner)
Spending time with friends and/or family
Keeping busy by going out to bars, clubs, movies, theater, etc.
Attending a family celebration with my ex and with our kids
Volunteering at a shelter/charity/community center
Staying on the couch/in bed until it's over


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