As a single mother on Father’s Day, sometimes it can be a little lonely when the children are not by your side, but it is essential to recognize the importance, in your children’s eyes, of spending time with their father, particular on Father’s Day.
Just as on Mother’s Day, when, as it should be, the mother is properly recognized for all of her contributions to the family, it is equally as important that the children are able to spend time with and recognize their father on their special day. In order to help prepare for not spending time with your children on Father’s Day, here’s a helpful guide of “Do’s and Don’ts” that I have found to be useful in my consultations with clients on the topic of Father’s Day and Father’s Day visitation when the parents are separated.
It should go without saying these suggestions apply equally to Mother’s Day, when the children are spending time with their mother, but since Father’s Day is rapidly approaching, we will start from there. So without further ado, here is my helpful list of do’s and don’ts for a single mother on Father’s Day:
Do encourage your children to spend time with their father on Father’s Day.
Do step aside for the day and allow the father to shine, even if for a day.
Do make sure your children, if they do not reside in the same geographical area as their father, or if Dad is deployed or working overseas, contact and speak with their father, preferably through some video conferencing, Skype, Facetime, or a similar application that allows for face-to-face interaction between the children and their father.
Do have the children create a Father’s Day card and/or encourage your children to make a homemade gift for their father.
Do take time for yourself and enjoy some quality time with your family or friends that does not involve the children.
Do not make plans or schedule other activities on Father’s Day that would deprive father of the opportunity to spend time with the children on Father’s Day.
Although this should apply year-round, do not disparage or otherwise denigrate Father to or around the children.
Do not prohibit the children from spending time with or contacting Father on Father’s Day.
Do not allow the children to dictate the terms of their timesharing with Father over Father’s Day.
Do not despair, Mother’s Day occurs in May, so make sure these same do’s and don’ts apply for your special day when it comes around each year!
While certainly not an exhaustive list, the hope is that these do’s and don’ts will work to provide you some parameters and guidelines on how best to handle Father’s Day and ensure a smooth timesharing experience for your child on Father’s Day.