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Name: lostandbetrayed New Member   Title: lost

my wife has been having an affair for 2 years.I just fond out.We are now getting a divorce.I have lost my best friend, my lover,she was my world.I need to know if and when does the empty,lost feeling go away.I feel betrayed.I am a good man and was a good husband.I was always there for her and supported her in everthing she did.Can someone tell me if I can go on without her and find love again or will my life be empty.

Name: roguti New Member

I'm sorry to hear your pain. I too am going through pain and my husband has left me for another woman...but you can move foward...it's been hard for me it won't be easy. Therapy has helped and a great support group of friends has helped as well. It takes time, months even years. I have my good days and bad days. It will take time but one can get passed it.

Name: ShelleyGregory New Member

I know exactly how you feel,in fact I could have wrote your post word for word, please just hang in there I know it's horrible, it took me about 1 1/2 years , as of today to start feeling like I'm in a good place, and ready to move on, I've ran the gammet of emotions, from shock, anger, severe grief, depression I even attempted a half assed suicide, as soon as I took the pills, I freaked, and called my Dr.,who called the paramedics. Getting a therapist you can connect with is key....if you need an anti-depressant med, don't hesitate to take one, mine literally saved my life, Good luck to you, you will get better, stay involved with people, and active.....God bless you...

Name: LuckyCharms New Member

I basically agree with B2RUE.

It'll be a painful process while you mourn the end of what sounds like a powerful relationship. But as cheesy as it sounds, remind yourself to breathe, and take things one step at a time. I know from experience that it truly does help. Especially remembering to take a deep breath.

Your wife doesn't know what she's losing, but that is her problem to deal with--not yours.

Don't let her poor decisions make you embittered and jaded.

You will love again!

Just be patient with yourself in terms of recuperating from the loss of your marriage. Don't rush anything, and you should be fine. And of course if you start feeling absolutely horrible, don't hesitate to get help and support!

Name: B2RUE New Member

Although you may feel now like you will not ever love again or be without this pain, I can promise you that you will love again and the pain, in time, will subside. Allow yourself the time to grieve. It's a devistation unlike any other, but as with most things in life, time does become your best ally. The best relief for me was to involve myself in helping others, but after allowing yourself to grieve and acknowledge all that you are feeling so they don't become repressed. I wish you well.