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Name: hangingon New Member   Title: kids having to go to husbands girlfriends house for visitata

My husband left me for an old girlfriend he hooked up with on facebook. I have full legal and physical custody of my kids. Wanred my lawyer to put in court order that my husband could not have my kids spend the night at his girlfriends during his visitation but he refused saying no judge would sign such an order because this was 2011 and not 1950. I just have a hard time knowing he puts my kids in front of her! She's the one he left me for and never took them around her until he got visitations and he sees nothing wrong with it! My kids hate being around her and I can't understand why a judge would say its in the best interest of the kids to be put in this situation! My husband has a history of drug and verbal abuse! Can I hire another lawyer and have the order changed or is my former lawyer right that no judge would agree to my request. I live in North Carolina and we are not divorced. Also thinking bout suing her!

Name: DoneThat New Member

My heart goes out to you. I, too, had a cheater (multiple, it turns out ...) but I'm so very fortunate my girls are older (15, 17) and can make their own decisions and their anger and disgust over his repulsive behavior they want nothing to do with him or his lover. I also have full legal and physical custody of my girls so I don't understand why any Court in the land would question your decision to shield your children from your husband's repulsive behavior since you have only their best interests in mind. Perhaps the Court should ask your children, and leave your cheater husband out of this. He's no longer in control or calling the shots. He wanted out -- and he's out! Good riddance.

Name: starrpac New Member

I am in the exact same situation, and would love to hear some feedback on this.