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Name: darren New Member   Title: affair

So I found out last week that my wife of 6 years and together for 15 years had some sort of an affair. Whether it was emotional or physical, I still don't know. She doesn't know that I know. While cleaning out some old paperwork during spring cleaning and getting ready for the birth of our second child next month I came across a letter written to her from some guy back in 2005. It basically said that he wished things could have turned out differently and that he would always love her. He even mentioned my dog by name so I know he's been over to my house. I so confused as to what I should do. Do I bring this up so close to the birth of my second child or do I just let it go. I am running all theses possible scenarios through my mind...I am just so lost. Please advise.

Name: lostandbetrayed New Member

Don't forgive and forget.This will eat you up and when you get to far down the road it might be to late. For all you know nothing happend and you can both put it to rest.If something did happen you can save it through counseling.I did not question and let it go. 5 days ago I found out my wife was having a affair for over a year.we are getting divorced because I waited to long to ask when I saw all the signs in front of me.Now it is to late.Just remember stay calm and don't accuse her.I know the lost feeling.She is your best friend and you don't want to lose her but you don't want this eating you up for years.

Name: sad New Member

let it go ...... Forgive and forget if you want to stay with her