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Name: zalhonan   Title: Need advice

I have been married to my high school sweet heart for 10 years now and have an 8 year old child.
Recently my wife told me with teary eyes that she "Loves" me but she has always been "In love" with someone else. According to her I have only been her best friend and care taker for all these years.
For the first three years she would go out to her friend’s house for a couple hours each night after I got home from work. I did not see it as a problem and thought it was just to have a break from the baby. As the years went by she would leave less and less with the occasional overnight stay at her friends or moms house. She swears to me she has not physically cheated on me but has fantasized about a life with the other person many times. We have always had what I would consider a great marriage we laugh together and seem to be the best of friends and lovers. She did not say she was leaving me for the other person. I could only guess she is just staying with me until the right moment, who knows when that will be. This news has devastated me and left me feeling empty and betrayed inside. Looking back I know her feelings for the other person are true thinking about hints she has dropped such as "Do you think you would ever be happy with someone else?" I think our entire marriage has been a sham. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks in advance for reading my post.

Name: DoneThat New Member

My husband also told me he "loved me" but wasn't "in love" with me. Interestingly enough I now know he told me that as he was sleeping with a two bit bar fly at the local hotel. They tell you all sorts of things while they attempt to figure out what it is they want, and what is best for themselves, not their family. Not that I am an advocate for divorce, conversly it's horrible, but save yourself and your child now. Any self-respecting woman would put her family first and stay home rather than these odd-ball overnighters elsewhere. Blessings.