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Name: Heart_Guard New Member   Title: Moving on (or at least forward)

I recently started seeing a man who is separated from his ex. They've been separated for 5 or 6 years and don't even live in the same province anymore.

Many factors led to the separation (on both sides), but it was her decision to have him leave the matrimonial home. After the separation was initiated he found out about her affair with one of his best friends and her subsequently getting pregnant by the guy. Up until that point he was open to reconcilliation, but because of the affair and pregnancy that isn't an option for him.

The pregnancy occurred before the first year of separation, so it has been several years.

At this point, my boyfriend refuses to file for divorce on principle. SHE pushed to get married in the first place. SHE kicked him out. SHE had the affair and got pregnant. SHE should be the one to file and pay for the divorce.

I understand his principles, but I want to hope at a life for the two of us together. Without a divorce, we could never get married or even live together as common-law. I don't want him to have to compromise, but I don't want to compromise my principles either.

Anyone out there ever gone through something like this? Any advice on encouraging the cheater to step up and finish what they started?