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Name: nkhbef New Member   Title: Wife will not divorce

My wife does not want it. She asked me to leave after 16 year marriage, and did not count on me embracing the idea. She said she will fight me every step of the way, but she will not fight over money. She has an attorney (friend) and I do not yet. This should be a simple process with no children. I have filed, she has canceled the hearing, I got it rescheduled and had one status conference, after the conference I assume her attorney had the following posted in the court record of events... "parties still trying to reconcile - will contact court in future as to how to proceed". I at no time as petitioner indicated to the court clerk that we were reconciling. I filed in Dec. and because of this statement it appears I have had to almost start the process all over. We are scheduled for the 3rd time, what I am wondering is what is the next step? When is division of property decided? Is another status conference going to be to set another date for the Marital Settlement Agreement to be discussed. She will not cooperate by filling out the agreement. When how does this take place, when is the 120 waiting period, when can I count on the final hearing and how can she fight this by delaying it from now on?

Name: divorceiswrong New Member

Why does your wife want to stay married? Maybe she realized how wrong she was; maybe she felt like the only way to get your attention was to threaten divorce, but what she really wanted was for your marriage to get help and be fixed. Sixteen years of marriage--why throw all that away? Soften your hearts, put down your "weapons of war" against each other. Remember why you got married in the first place. Don't take each other for granted. The media paints divorce as an easy, desirable solution to discontent in a marriage. Yes, there's an initial high from change and getting a chance to "start over," but truly the grass is NOT greener on the other side. Just because divorce is so common these days doesn't mean it's the right thing. Please, set aside your pride and ego. Talk with a religious leader, counselor or trusted friend--be sure it is someone who values families, commitments, forgiveness, and unselfish. You guys lost something you once had--you truly can find it again and be happier than ever.

Name: Lovehurts123 New Member

You need to get a lawyer. There is going to be a fight sorry to tell you. If you get a lawyer he or she can help with the MSA and the fact that she doesnt want it now. Hope this helps.