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Name: jhw New Member   Title: Really need. help, havent seen this topic anywhere

I'm 35 years old, and married for over 6 years, and dated for over 3 years prior. I really do love my wife. We have some major issues. I grew up around drugs, and poor decisions. Mom, dad, uncles, etc. I now have my own business, and am successful. Here is where my issue is. My wife has done everything and anything for her child, but has never allowed me to be part of the diciplining of her child. She always wanted a more friend type relationship with her child. The problem isnt that I wasnt involved in setting boundaries for her child, the problem is no boundaries were ever set. Now I'm staring straight at what I always feared. A child making bad decisions. Very young (13) and smoking pot, cigarettes, and in all likelihood other drugs. Also recently I noticed money missing out of my wallet, and our house was burglarized a few months back. I'm 100% sure he took money out of my wallet, and very sure he had something to do with the burglary. I find myself hiding my stuff, and being very uncomfortable in my own house. I also have a 10 yr old son who comes over every other weekend and one day during the week. I'm worried about my son's stuff disapearing. Keep in mind I'm basically reliving a part of my childhood. I'm in a place right now where I never wanted to go back to. Especially not as an adult. I've contemplated many things as far as what to do about this. I'm completely left out of the process of trying to rehabilitate her child. Basically I have no say in what goes on in my own house. Again I love my wife, and I dont blame her for all of this, but I need to know what are the laws when it comes to your wife's child bringing drugs into the home, and can I ask her to leave, since there is no way she is kicking her son out of my house. I really dont want to live like this, but I have no idea what to do. What has to happen to get this resolved, legally speaking? I'm listening to all feedback on this, so please respond responsibly.