Login / Register | Select Category » General Discussion » How do I get through this?

Name: doula New Member   Title: How do I get through this?

I have been married for 15 years. My husband had an affair 5vyears ago and left me and filed for a divorce. Right in the middle of mediation he stops and tells his lawyer he doesnt want the divorce. I had already gone through the most painful experience in my life and now he wanted to reconcile. I gave it some time and prayer and agreed to reconcile but with conditions. It's five years later and only one condition was followed through on. I have much reason to believe he is cheating again. I have gotten much wise counsel from not only professionals but older married friends and they all agree, male and female, he's doing wrong and I need to divorce him. After much deliberation I have decided to do it. He was served with papers on the first of July. He never texted or called me upon receiving them, to see how our 10 & 13 year old children were with this news. we own a bar and grill in which I believe he has his affair with a bartender there. His behavior is a carbon copy of the last time. Now he has been served and won't move out of the house. This is killing me! I can't nor can my children adjust and move forward with him here. I believe it is very unhealthy for us to live in the same house. He doesn't show any concern for our feelings at all. Of course that's part of how we got to this place anyway. what do i do to convince a narcissistic person to leave!?

Name: LuckyCharms New Member

It sounds as if you aren't enough (on your own) to make him leave.

You might not have any choice now but to pay an attorney, or file a restraining order or contact a police official to force him out. I don't know of another way.

Good luck! Do everything in your power to protect yourself and your children. Don't let him step all over you a moment longer.