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Name: gms   Title: relocation of children

I wanted to get some feedback about relocation with my children. I have custody of the children, with my ex husband seeing them every other weekend, and one day during the week. I currently reside in Missouri, but plan to remarry a man living in Iowa. What kind of court battle am I really up against? I have done a lot of online research, and obtained general information such as; it depends on what is in the best interest of the children...etc. I know those basic facts, but couldn't really find any actual court cases to review. I know my ex will oppose the move. I am trying to get feedback from someone who knows a lot about this, or has been through it, to give me some advice. I am in a position now where I am not sure it is worth going through a nasty court battle if I am going to lose. In other words, what are my chances of the judge granting relocation? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

Name: jakemeister1 New Member

Most research that I read leads me to believe that most children do better with an intact family with their two biological parents. The main exceptions are abuse, addiction, infidelity. Why are children expected to adjust to and like whoever their parents choose to bring into their house?
I am in agreement with madalex that parents are primarily responsible for what ever situation they put themselves and their famiy in. Ask you children what they want you and their father to do. It may not be the course of action you seem to want to take.

Name: dedicateddad New Member

For the sake of the Children, unless he's abusive, Please don't move away and add more separation of child and parent.
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Name: madalex Member

chitownmom2 -

No one is forcing mon to stay in one state or preventing mom from moving. She can move whenever she wants. She just can't nevessarily take the kids with her. The kids do not "belong" to her, so she can't make the unilateral decision to move them.

By the way, the courts do not put parents in this position: the parents put themselves in this decision when they decide to have children, then get divorced, then decide to move somewhere else to pursue their own individual agendas without any thought to what it will do to the children.

In this situation, mom wants to move to be with her new husband. That is her decision. Why should she get to impose that decision on dad and the kids, simply because she wants to pursue her own agenda?

Name: chitownmom2

I think its crazy that someone would actually tell you to leave your kids with their dad and move. What a bunch of crock madalex. I feel your pain. I think its insane that the courts put parents in a position like this. Forcing a parent to stay in one state is like giving all the power to the ex. They are non custodial parents for a reason. You have an uphill battle. There are tons of legal websites to look up court cases you just have to have the time to really look.

Name: madalex Member

It will be a nsaty court battle and even if you win, you may be required to pay all the costs of having your children travel to visit their father.

Keep in mind that you can always move; it's just that you can't take the kids away from their father without a court order. So, if it is so important for you to move, just do so and let the kids move in with their dad full time.

Name: roxy3

wow i am a mother of 2 and i need some feedback since i want to relocate with my kids too. i have the same problem with my ex with what you are going thru..please help need feedback

Name: ajv

Court battle. The battle is getting to court. I am currently trying to relocate my children and I to Kansas. My new husban had to take a position in Kansas or he would loose his job. It has been 5 months since I filed a motion to relocate and nothing is happening. My x husban will not allow the children to relocate. I am 8 months pregnant living in Colorado with my 3 children waiting for a hearing. It is so hard on every one ! My husban and I have been living apart for about 3 months. I have not gone to court yet, but hope it will be set soon.

Name: cheeps New Member

How far away? We split travel time in half but they were only four hours away. If they have a good relationship in both houses it is not a good idea to have them be to far apart from the dad. It matters how old they are too...how old?cheeps