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Name: ag2121 New Member   Title: my husband has a girlfriend and we have a 3 month old baby

my husband left 2 weeks after our son was born,,,i then found out he had been having an affair for 7 out of the 9 months i was pregnant. for the last couple of months i have been trying to do the right thing and let him see the baby...i also enjoy the 'family time' we get to spend together and so does my husband...but always at the end of the day he leaves and goes back to his apartment. we are barely on speaking terms right now and this is extremely difficult for me bc we have been together for 13 years...but i cant help but feel this is his choice...he chose to break this family up and although he enjoys the 'family time' he cant have it both ways...for god sakes my husband had a girlfriend...how am i supposed to deal w that?? please offer any advice if u have been in a similar situation...thanks!

Name: aly New Member

Im sorry this happened to you. But the chouces you make right now will put you in abetter position later. First stop allowing him to see the baby in your home. Meet somewhere else the illusion your creating about a perfect family home is holding you in place. He left and you need to accept that for a time he will be gone. 13 years is along time and believe me I know. by holding on to him you are making the heart break wore you need to be strong for your son. You need to raise a man who will respect commitment and respect a women who gives him years of her life. That is your job now not trying to win back a lying cheating husband. Stop believing the dream inyour heart. I know its hard and hurts like Hell but for the mean time it's done. I know this sounds harsh but i know where your going to go and believe me you got a beautiful baby out of the deal, some of us were less lucky.

Name: ag2121 New Member

and now i lose out on the family time bc when he comes for his visits i just leave bc i cant stand to let him have his cake and eat it too...i know that might sound selfish...but it breaks my heart to have such a great time together w our son for him to just pick up and leave after each time...it just doesnt make sense and its not fair...