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Name: bpcakes32 New Member   Title: divorce and moving out of state with minor children

Im in the process of a divorce and I want to move to Tennessee to be with my Family for support. One day my soon to be Ex husband says he wont stop me and then he changes his mind. The children want to leave as much as I do. Im a going to be fighting a losing batle in court? I cant afford to spend thousands of dollars that I dont have in court on something that will never happen. If anyone been thru this and can give me some advice i would be so thankful.

Name: sheilakopp New Member

I agree with the previous posts. It would be very unusual for a judge to allow the custodial parent to leave the state following a divorce unless there is an overwhelming reason to do so, such as it is the only means by which the children would be supported financially. The presumption in the Ohio courts is that children should have both parents in their lives as much as possible. It's unfortunate that you do not apparently feel the same way. Hopefully you'll change your mind on that as time goes by.

Name: CherylLukacs New Member

Yours is a very difficult situation. The law in Ohio requires the Court to determine the best interest of the children, not the parents. Although secure and happy parents very often generate secure and happy children. Please review all the facts carefully with your attorney before asserting your right to relocate. Your motives and competing variables may underymine your intentions and credibility with the Court. Good luck to you and your family.

Name: marthac New Member

I agree with madalex. I am not sure why after a divorce, a spouse, usually the one who has custody would think that the other spouse is not necessary. I know that you think your ex is not necessary because he is your ex, but he is not the ex to your children. What the law has to say is usually the lowest standard when it comes to how we should be with each other. The law says we should not kill, but I know we can do better than that.

Name: madalex Member

Children need two parents in their lives. Divorcing parents need to think of their children first, and not themselves, and do things that are in the best interests of their children. It is not in a child's best interest to be moved away from one parent. It's also not a question of what the children want, because often children don't know any better (children generally want to skip school and eat nothing but chocolate, but as adults we don't let them do that; similarly, the fact that children may want to move should not be a factor in this sistuation).