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Name: cglass New Member   Title: Should I leave my lesbian wife and daughter?

Two years ago my wife annouced she was a Lesbian. Since then we've been living together for the sake of our 5-year old daughter. We've both dated and had sexual partners since then. But now I'm ready to move on (from my wife, not my daughter) and am being torn by feelings of guilt because I want to separate...

Am I being selfish or should I continue to stay in the marriage (which I believe to be doomed sooner or later) for the sake of my daughter?

Name: fullmoon New Member

Either there's something in the water or there is a lingering fullmoon overhead.

From reading your posts, it appears I am unique. Following the discovery of my ex-wifes affair with another woman, I gave it 21 days to attempt a reconciliation. No such thing, so I left and 23 days after that I informed her I would be divorcing her.

She refused to come out of the closet, yet continued to submit my boys (both under 13) to her new "lifestyle" saying her "friend" was from work.

I refused to allow my boys to continuing living with the unknown and decided that it was better for all to deal with the truth sooner than later, rather than having the kids make up their own ideas of whats going on.

Its now been more than six months since all has been in the open. While it hasn't been easy, at least the kids are dealing with adjusting with the truth.

I'm no expert, but in my case, the only option was the truth, with open and honest communications.

Living together with the kids for the kids just does everyone a disservice to living life as we all should...happy yet with difficult complixities along the way.

Hope this helps in both of your decisions to move on.

Name: RelationalHarmony New Member

Sounds like you've already moved on. If there's any lingering hope with your wife and her getting to the core of relationship issues please get in touch! Or start with this quiz:

http://www.relationalharmony.
org/page8/page8.php

Best,
Fernando

Name: qwerty2000 New Member

Sir I am at the pre stage to were your at, and I have to say this, I am contemplating to move on. I know my 7 year old girl will feel the pain ANY WAY you GO!
If you were to stay OR if you had to go.. Try to think it thru and you will "see" what life you Girl will have. Honestly I dont have the heart to move on, but I am taking time to think it thru.