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Name: desperate09 New Member   Title: Expecting a child

My husband and I have only been married 6 months. We are expecting our first child together. I love my husband, but he has become very violent and angry all the time. He picks fights with me all the time and leaves physical marks on my body. He immediately tries to make up with me, but I can't stand for him to put his hands on me after he has been rough with me, which makes him angrier. Our first big fight occured 3 months ago and things were going smoothly after we had worked things out. Now it is just one fight after another, and I am scared of how much more violent he will get. The point is, I'm tired of it and want out. However, I want my child to know his or her father. I know he will accuse me of trying to take his child away from him and so he will fight me on everything. What kind of custody battle am I looking at? Has anyone ever seen a divorce case where the couple is expecting a child? Any input is appreciated!

Name: savefamilies New Member

What does he think about the divorce? Is he open to counseling--marriage and/or anger management? Does he perhaps have medical problems that need attention? You need to stay safe, but if he is willing to start working on changes, are you patient enough to hold off on the divorce? Realize that his problems won't go away just by you divorcing him; however, you'll have less influence on him when he's with your child (unless he's so violent that he's not allowed to have unsupervised parent-time). Divorce is awful and hurts families and should be avoided at all costs. However, if you're being abused, you need to protect yourself. Good luck. I wish you the best.