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Name: lauri New Member   Title: Ex's anger is destroying our children..help

It's a long story but basically I left my home and my husband has residential custody because of school and finances. His anger towards me is horrific and he is constantly saying thing to the kids that don't need to be said such as what I do, who I'm with, money issues, and I feel is is trying to destroy me by destroying my sons! He has a very unpredictable personality and might be bi-polar. We are unable to speak civilly about anything most of the time. My kids are showing signs of anger and he is using them as a tool. I am not working due to illness, doing my divorce myself, can not afford a lawyer, counselor for my kids and nothing I can to or say about the damage he is doing to the kids makes a difference. I'm scared and worried for them. I am countering his divorce statement and want shared custody. He is fighting me for custody to hurt me. I feel like he is trying to get my kids against me and I don't know what to do anymore!

Name: PASA-NJ New Member

Hi Lauri,
I am very sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time. It sounds like the beginning stages of Parental Alienation. I can try to help you find a support group in your area, and at the very least direct you to resources that can help you. I founded a non-profit in NJ, Parental Alienation Support & Advocacy NJ, www.pasanj.org. Please feel free to e-mail me directly at parentalalienationnj@gmail.com.
Stay Strong and Positive,
Anna

Name: AprilH New Member

I have been separated for two yrs. My kids are with their Dad because he can afford the house and I can't. We have been married for 24 yrs. I had an affair almost 2yrs ago. I am ashamed of the affair. It is the worst mistake of my life. My husband has said many things that he shouldn't have in front of our 3 kids, ages 20, 18, and 16. There is a lot of anger there, especially with the 16yr old. My husband knows my kids are my life and I made a huge mistake but I have always been a good mother. I think he is trying to make it where the kids hate me and don't want to have anything to do with me.