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Name: jim_wrench Member   Title: Dead Beat Mommy

my ex and i separated and about a month of her being with the kids she left the country and is now mooching off a new man. we have three kids together that i have custody for and she has acess depending on the terms and conditions set forth by me. she is not arguing custody but she wants specified access she has only made 1 trip up to see her babies in 6 months and wants alot more than that. she wants every other christmas and easter break. plus 6 weeks in the summer but the catch is she wants them in the usa we are in canada. she was in canada and we lived here all our lives but if she abandoned everything to start a new life do i have to let the kids go there to visit?? is it right??? plus she has never contributed to the welfare of my family. she was a homemaker who left and never worked and refuses to work... i am getting more and more forehead with this BS day in and out.. she also makes a phone call everyday to talk to the kids is this normal..

Name: Momof2Boys Member

In the USA, the courts frown if you discourage a relationship with the other parent... you could lose your kids if she proves you are keeping the kids from her. You have to separate your emotions and feelings for her and foster a good relationship between her and the kids. At least, that's how it is in my state.Best wishes!

Name: luch Member

JimHer calling every day is a normal thing. My ex calls his child every night between 7 & 8 PM.Just to say goodnight and ask about the days school. But I would not trust her taking the kids into the state unless guidelines are drawn up by a lawyer.Sounds like she is too spontaneous and could be a big headache.

Name: Changed Member

Jim, you don't want to discourage involvement with their mother and I don't think a phone call daily is a bad thing, but you DO need to talk with an attorney about visitation. If the divorce is not complete, you at least need a temporary custody order that will outline her rights to visitation.------------------ A woman is like a tea bag--only in hot water do you realize how strong she is.--Nancy Reagan