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Name: sl15ca New Member   Title: Dating a divorced dad who brings up the ex-wife

I've been dating a divorced dad (with a six year old) lives in a different state from his daughter and her mother. Since the beginning, he has mentioned things from his six year on/off relationship about his ex. "she used to do this..." "she never did this..." Sometimes pertaining to their child, sometimes just about the relationship. Even up until this day, I hear " I got a text and she's doing well in school"... "I used to take her here and she hated this.." I would like some advice and answers as to why he continues to bring Her up? I can't help but think that he still might have feelings for her, even though he sometimes talks about her with such disdain, anger, and dislike. I have said that if it involves his daughter, I would love to be the listening ear, but if it doesn't I dont want to hear it. Why does he continue to talk about her?

Name: Den Of Earth New Member

Quick point. Just because he mentions her does not mean he doesnt genuinely care for you. You just have to be aware that you may become another ex or another on/off for him. As crappy as that sounds it is possible.

It does seem like this guy does have some potentially serious issues with letting go seeing how his and the ex were on/off for six years. Had to have been a reason behind that.

Name: aly New Member

Because he still loves her. Believe what you want, say no its not true, but you already know why she is in his head. I would say to leave but you would never listen because he loves you too right? your only trying to help and you would make a great step-mother. Stop. Please. they have unfinished business and you are the one you will be hurt later on in this. I say this with respect. Six years and a child sways the favor toward the mother.

Name: bentlycole New Member

becur he loves har that is why

Name: ragin New Member

Yeah but he had a life with her.. you are the newcomer so back off.