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Name: Buttercup88 New Member   Title: 4 yr old in fear

I have been trying to divorce my husband for over a year, due to abuse. He hurt our daughter physically causing bruising on her arms. My parents witnessed this.
He "gets her" Friday 5:30pm to Sat 6pm, every other week, his request. He recently requested her Sun 9-6 instead.
He refuses to sign any Offer to Settle, claiming he wants joint custody, etc. I have Sole at the moment.
Ok to the question: my 4 year old came home from a visit, and three days later she told me that she did not like it at Daddy's because his girlfriend Mel yells at her kids a lot and yells at Daddy. He yells back.
I did not know how to respond. It caught me off guard. Suggestions please help? Oh and we are not yet divorced, as he refuses but he and Mel are supposably getting married in June, invitations were sent to "our" friends.

Name: Buttercup88 New Member

Thank you for your reply. I do not know if they yell at her, I would hope not, and you
are correct, she has not expressed that to me. I do not yell, it is not in my nature.
I am trying to take him up on his offer, but he refuses to agree, yet he does not explain
what his thinking his, and he has not provided an outline of his offer.
We have a child investigator, court appointed, on the case, so I am wondering if his
behaviour will change towards our daughter when the case investigator is no longer
involved...right now he is being monitored for his behaviour, due to his abusive
nature. Again thank you for your time.

Name: madalex Member

Your daughter is not complaining that she is being yelled at or worse, but simply that others are being yelled at around her. So, what exactly is the problem? Do you ever yell at your daughter or anyone else? If so, how can you be alarmed that your husband and his GF are yelling at each other or their kids?

That being said, he wants to go from one overnight every other week to one day every other week with no overnights? Take him up on that offer.