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Name: cadalotra New Member   Title: no good dirty rotten

Ive been married 26 years, we are now filing, we had 4 children. 16 yr old twin boys still at home. I have been a stay at home mom most of marriage. Just starting working last summer. For close to mim wage. Husband makes 100 thou a year. Don't I get 30% child support for for boys? Can I get alimony on top of that? He wants to make us sell the house, take my van away , I will have no car to drive.{cuz he made the payments} what rights to i have?

Name: JennyRose Member

.befair...... '' Just because you were a stay at home doesn't make you entitled to anymore than those of us who have always worked. '' Who is asking for more ? All that some of us are asking for is the ability to contiue living with a roof over our heads. The laws say that we are entitled to half. Feel all the pride you feel you deserve for having provided for your one daughter. I on the other had have 5 daughters and 5 sons. I am PROUD for fighting for their lives to remain as stable as possible. I took the house as my half of the settlement, leaving most of the investments for him.
What I really hate to see is one person judging another. Every story is different. Please don't be embarrassed for me. I'm very proud of my accomplishments and how I have held my family together. And me just a stay-at-home mom.........who would of thought ?

Name: befair New Member

Sometimes I'm embarrassed for you other women. Just because you were a stay at home doesn't make you entitled to anymore than those of us who have always worked. Why don't you spend more time figuring out how YOU are going to make it on your own than what you can stick him for. Men really get the raw end of the deal, and I am a woman saying that. I am PROUD to say that I provided most of the support for my daughter. Women need to remember that it takes two to tango, and women are EQUALLY responsible for supporting children.

Name: cadalotra New Member

How can I get a lawyer when I barely make enough to live off of? I am not sure what to do or what to ask for. He is letting me write up our divorce. I have it almost all the paperwork done. I am asking for 3000 a month and for the house. We bough the house 7 years ago. The payments are about 900ish. I know after talking to him, I would have to get a lawyer to get support after my boys graduate. He is a very angry at me for divorcing him. Our marriage hasn't been good for years. I am leaving him because he started helping my son with getting marijuana. I haven't brought that info into anything..well untill now. lol..I am working 2 jobs right now, and am going to start some kind of training and hopefully beable to survive without my no good, dirty rotton man, for the rest of my life.
I would like to get a lawyer,, just don't know how to afford one. So I guess I will do and ask for what I think he may say okay to.. and be done with it. I love the 53% that Jenny is getting,, and would like to know why madalex doesn't think I can get 30%. From the websites and papers I look at,, that is the amount it says I can get.

Name: JennyRose Member

I got 53% of his net disposable income and half of his pension. Child support is taken from the guidelines according to his wage and the remainder of the 53% comes to me as spousal support. Don't be afraid. Get a lawyer. Fear robbed me of my peace of mind until I found out what my rights were. Good luck.

Name: cwrein New Member

Transitioning back into single life isn't easy, but it is possible. As an adult, you should be given support to assist in becoming self-supporting. This may take several years, but to latch on to someone for lifetime support will never allow the wounds of divorce to heal. Everyone, including your children, will suffer. Of course, your 16 year olds need support, and they also need to be able to love Both parents. It's for their own emotional health. I speak from first hand experience.

Name: madalex Member

Although it depends upon your state, you are unlikely to get 30% of his total compensation as child support. You are, however, likely to be eligible for some spousal support (alimony). Given the duration of your marriage, such spousal support may be permanent (meaning until you die or remarry). You need to consult a lawyer to assist you with this.