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Name: thissucks New Member   Title: alimony

HI,
i have been married 6 yrs, we have had children 3 of them, but my wife has never "stayed home" because of the children. We married when i was already thru professional school so her time with me has been high 5 figure and low 6 figure income. she wants the divorce (and i guess now so do i but wanted to work on things before) i have never been unfaithful or abusive. She makes 18k/yr and i 150k. i am happy to pay colorado child support but really dont like the idea of paying alimony when she is the one leaving. We havent gone to court and are trying to solve amicably but this may be a sticking point. We even paid around 20k for her to go to school during the 6 yrs.
is she entitled to alimony?
also i am military and she has been with me 6 yrs of the 20 for retirement, can she claim that?
thank you

Name: rstevens New Member

what is the age of the children ? do they go to school / how will they live / foof/ clothes/ etc drs activities how can she work with smal school age children and pay food and rent u seem upset about her , but the childrens welfare should come first and then worry aout her motives or activities. is she a good concerned mom? and your personal issues should come second to thier welfare.

Name: intex7 New Member

What about the children? Is she getting them? I am guessing the answer to be yes if you are in military. Hope you can come to an agreement and mediate before you go to court fo child support of 3. and you will have less income after the judge finds out how much you make. Hope you can get a lawyer that would give joint custody and no child support. I know it sux to think one would be getting off easy and you have done nothing wrong, but just don;t forget about the kids. Maybe you can talk to your wife and let her know about the children and their feelings also, and that it it a huge step when having children in a divorce, and maybe you can work things out. I would' t know why she would want to leave after all that time and your not abusive. Seems like you might want to try and sort things out and make her understand that she would be putting the kids through alot of trama. I know it sounds rough but its true. Sorry for the long off the topic reply, but it was the first sentence that caught my eye. Good luck!

Name: madalex Member

She is entitled to a portion of your retirement equal to the value of such for the 6 years you were together. You will need an attorney or financial expert to help you figure out what that value is.

Although alimony laws vary by state, she will likely be entitled to some alimony. Time period is generally half the length of the marriage, so you are looking at up to 3 years. The fact that she is leaving is irrelevant to this issue. This is another issue you should get an attorney to help you with so that you don't get screwed.