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Name: niceguynomore   Title: Ex-Wife is now trying to take too much

I have a lawyer but I need some more help.

A little about me:

In October my wife lost the first job she has ever worked in 7 years of marriage. We have no kids and she never has worked until just last year. So she worked a total of one year during our marriage.

I basically always encouraged her to go to school or get a good job. When we first were married she was not a U.S. Citizen and did not write English well. So her job options were limited. She got her residency via me after a few years of marriage. After this she still never worked. She came to me a few times with jobs like at the mall and just normal low paying jobs. I always just told her she did not have to work if she did not want and should think seriously about going to school. But yet she still just always went out and spent money and never figured out what she wanted to do. So now she is blaming me saying I never let her work.

She also was very abusive and jealous I have been beaten by her, bitten leaving teeth marks, scratched and even still have some light scares. Last year at my company Christmas party on the way home she thought another co-workers wife had something with me and got into a big fight and hit me with a high heal shoe bleeding my ear I almost had to have stitches. None of this has ever been documented and being a man would not really matter.

Anyway after she lost her job in October as a flight attendant which took her away from home 5 days a week and she was home on the weekend for a year. She told me that for the last year that I was a nice guy and had always taken care of her but that she had not been in love with me for over a year and a half. I asked her what she wanted to do could she fix things and she said she did not think so. So I filled for divorce after trying to get her to come to her senses for a few weeks.

So then we tried the uncontested divorce route. This was where I basically hired a lawyer to write up papers that gave my wife most of everything in the house to sell. I paid off her car that was in my name in the amount of $17,000 and today signed over the title to her. I also gave her another car that was already paid off so she could sell it for $1000. I was agreeing to pay her $700 alimony for 2 years. I also agreed to give her the proceeds we received from the house we are selling and not accept anything. We have over $34,000 in debt between credit cards and loans. One of which was cosmetic surgery she wanted for $10,000. I assumed all the responsibility for this debt as well the only thing I left her to pay is her cell phone bill every month for $65 and a credit card only in her name for $3000.

This week she wanted to hire her a lawyer just to review my divorce settlement agreement and did not have the money. So I gave her $600 to pay for the lawyer to review the papers hoping they would be signed and this would be over while we still were treating each other half way decent. Well today she calls me and says she does not want to go with my agreement even if I am giving up so much. By the way I am still paying for all the bills and she is living for free and claims no one will give her a job. She wants me to take out another loan on our house in the amount of $15,000 says she will sign the house over to me and I can sell the house and pay off all the loans. She wants to take the $15,000 and leave the house.

Well I said no to her and am now going to have to fight her in court contested, which is going to cost me more money.

So my questions to anyone that can help or has been in a similar situation. Can she go to court and win a lot of money from me. Or do I have a chance as a guy to actually get a fair deal. Thanks

Name: Maggy New Member

Hi,

I would suggest you talk to a lawyer, DON'T DO ANYTHING WITHOUT LAWYER'S ADVISE, explain to him everything you have done for her, and hopefuly you have prove of everything you gave Her, your obligations to her has a limit, If you don't know your rights, you will be paying "FOR EVER", know your rights thougth your lawyer, and put and end on this "abusive" never end ex-wife...Good Luck!!!!

Name: Fonzie

i feel ur pain i bought my ex a new car thats about the only thing we have to fight about besides alimony and child support im so glad ididnt buy a home i allmost did.good luck .im paying all the bills plus child support and the car note .i only drove that brand new car maybe 4 times. i hope i can get it back . im out here in cali i pay 870.00 for one child next time she hits u put her in jail i put my ex in jail for one week she is still bitter over that but she broke the law

Name: livejim56

i have no clu where you live,, but as i have been paying almost 2000 in alimong for 7 years. I wih you the best