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Name: Stephthomp New Member   Title: Child support during separation

I just left my husband yesterday, do I guess that would make us separated since I have not yet filed for divorce. During the marriage, we both agreed it would be best for me to work pt to care for our young son. Unfortunately, I make minimum wage which doesn't leave me with a lot of money. Under the advice from an attorney, I withdrew the money from our joint savings account ($800) because God knows when I will get a dime out of him for child support. He is now flipping out and claiming he wants $200 back because it was money his mom gave him for a vacation he is taking to Jamaica with his friends this spring. Should I give him that $200 back? Or is it rightfully mine? I need money to support my son by buying diapers, groceries etc and I don't even know how long it's going to take for child support to go into motion. I guess I feel bad in a way, but I'm confused as of what I should do because I barely make anything at my current job. Any advice? I don't want him to bully me into giving the money back if I don't have to...

Name: noted_overuled New Member

Steph,
Please be careful on what you do. It could get nasty. You do have a point about the responsibilities of taking care of your child. I would hope that he would "Man-Up" on his responsibilities.
Suggestions to find out how much it would cost to support 1 child for the state that you are in. See to it that he get's a copy of it. He may want to be involved with his child. At least give him a chance. Make sure that there is a suspense (time-line) for your response. If he fails to meet the time, respectfully let him know what you will do next (your choice). Or just start your filing with the lawyer and get it done thru the state. Try to work it out with him first if you can. Good Luck.

Name: MsHolmes New Member

This money is marital money, and of that you own an equitable portion. Also, the money is in a joint account and your name is on that account, so yes, withdraw $800 and don't feel guilty. Your attorney has seen it all before and is looking out for your best interests and that of your child. Trust!