Some people say that adults don’t fully mature until they have children, because parenthood requires a greater level of responsibility and commitment. Being a stepparent is a similar rite of passage on the road to character development and social evolution, with its own unique twists. In the best scenarios, stepparents can promote healing and growth in their new families.
For most of us stepparents, our role is a supporting one. The extent of involvements for each person depends on a multitude of factors, including basic chemistry. But we do get to decide how we want to behave and the attitude we bring to the family.
Fifty stepchildren of different ages were asked to give advice to stepparents; here is a summary of what they said.
Checking in with your Stepkids
Find a quiet moment to ask your stepkids how your relationship is going from their perspective. Is there anything that they would like to change, or is there anything in particular that they especially like about it? Ask your spouse how he/she feels about your current relationship with the kids.
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