Terry Gaspard (MSW, LICSW) is a licensed therapist, college instructor, and non-fiction author specializing in divorce, women’s issues, children, and relationships. As a therapist, she helps people heal from the pain they experience related to divorce and other losses. Her interest in the lives of women who grew up in divorced families began with her own experience with divorce. Terry and her daughter Tracy recently published a book entitled Daughters of Divorce: Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents' Breakup and Enjoy a Happy, Long-Lasting Relationship (Sourcebooks, 2016); you can order a copy here.
Terry became a published writer while attending graduate school in the 1990s, where she began researching the long-term impact of parental divorce. Her initial research study in 1995 included 198 women; during the study, she discovered that the loss of access to both parents was associated with low-self-esteem in daughters of divorce. Following that, she studied a larger, diverse sample of more than 300 adults, examining issues such as interpersonal relationships, family climate, and self-esteem. Both studies were published in the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. Her other publications focus on parenting. Her current research, described in Daughters of Divorce, discusses findings from interviewing more than 300 women raised in divorced families from 2009 to 2014.
It will take time for you and your children to adjust to your new lifestyle but maintaining an optimistic outlook will help ease the transition into single parenting.
You can turn the hurts from past betrayals into lessons.
The key to helping your child feel secure is to help them anticipate the transitions between their two homes.
The relationship a daughter has with her father can impact her psychological well-being for years to come. Fostering a daughter’s self-esteem following divorce is a top priority.
Dating after divorce can be enjoyable if you approach it thoughtfully. Keeping your children’s needs in mind will help you preserve your bond with them while you make a smooth transition into the next phase of your life.