Terry Gaspard (MSW, LICSW) is a licensed therapist, college instructor, and non-fiction author specializing in divorce, women’s issues, children, and relationships. As a therapist, she helps people heal from the pain they experience related to divorce and other losses. Her interest in the lives of women who grew up in divorced families began with her own experience with divorce. Terry and her daughter Tracy recently published a book entitled Daughters of Divorce: Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents' Breakup and Enjoy a Happy, Long-Lasting Relationship (Sourcebooks, 2016); you can order a copy here.
Terry became a published writer while attending graduate school in the 1990s, where she began researching the long-term impact of parental divorce. Her initial research study in 1995 included 198 women; during the study, she discovered that the loss of access to both parents was associated with low-self-esteem in daughters of divorce. Following that, she studied a larger, diverse sample of more than 300 adults, examining issues such as interpersonal relationships, family climate, and self-esteem. Both studies were published in the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. Her other publications focus on parenting. Her current research, described in Daughters of Divorce, discusses findings from interviewing more than 300 women raised in divorced families from 2009 to 2014.
Whenever possible, fathers need to sustain a close connection with their children – through phone calls, regular contact, holiday time, birthdays, and special occasions – to promote a loving attachment that endures through rough patches.
Adult children of grey divorce tend to be the forgotten ones. Manage their emotional devastation when breaking the news.
Being friends with your ex won’t allow you both to move on with your life after divorce.
If a couple has a foundation of trust and intimacy, they will find second marriage success.
Resentment often grows over time, learn to let go and be the better person post-divorce.