In 2005, I watched my parents get divorced, which was followed in 2007 with my own divorce. I am a mother of four, a certified relationship and bereavement coach, and co-author of a book called Contagious Optimism. The focus of my coaching practice was on divorce recovery for those considered collateral damage such as adult children or parents of the divorcing couple, in addition to assisting people with the grieving process that goes on. I didn't focus on dating or how many people see relationship coaching, there's so much more to life than that. I've written a book about my experience, called Tears in a Jar , due out shortly. I currently work as a health informatics researcher and have managed to completely rebuild my post-divorce life. I am always open to helping others to do the same.
Divorcing couples are often mired in the mud between them, and this is often true in Hollywood as well. The divorce of Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale offers a contrast on this point. Gwen has been very open and yet she has been very kind. What choice will you make about your own divorce?
The holidays are a time of horror for many adult kids of divorce. I have gone ahead and outlined some strategic ways to avoid experiencing horror at the holiday table.
What Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's family situation says about our society. I wish everyone in this family situation well.
If you're an adult kid of divorce struggling to deal with keeping your children's family relationships whole after their grandparents got divorced, or you're a divorced grandparent trying to figure out how to behave, I have some thoughts here for you.
Ever wonder what the procedure is when an ex-spouse dies? I've put together some thoughts based on my own experience.