Karen Paul Holmes is the author of the poetry collection, Untying the Knot (Aldrich Press 2014), a story of loss and healing after the end of her 31-year marriage. It’s been described as a “courageous, deeply human book,” by Poet Thomas Lux. Karen received an Elizabeth George Foundation poetry grant in 2012, and her publishing credits include Poetry East, Atlanta Review, Flycatcher, The Sow’s Ear Poetry Review, and The Southern Poetry Anthology Vol 5: Georgia, among others. Formerly the VP of Communications at a global financial services company, she is now a freelance business writer, poet, and “roving” writing teacher (venues include the John C. Campbell Folk School in North Carolina). Untying the Knot is available in Kindle and paperback at Amazon.com. Read reviews there and "see inside" the book for sample poems.
How do you know whether you're coping with divorce and its memories in a healthy way? Here is advice from someone who uses writing as therapy. A poem by poet Tina Barry about a childhood memory demonstrates how divorce stays with you into adulthood. The article also contains advice on divorce recovery from a therapist.
My husband told me he was sleeping with my good friend. As the initial shock of infidelity wore off and I was able to process, three primary lines of thinking emerged: (1) Woe is me, I’ve been wronged; (2) What did I do wrong and how can I change?; (3) He will come back to me.
Can you fall in love again after infidelity, separation, divorce? Yes, if you proceed with wise caution and courage. Dating after divorce can be an important aspect of divorce recovery... but only if you're ready. Here are 6 tips based on my own experience. I also include a humorous look at dating in the poem "Mating Instincts" from my book Untying the Knot.
With the big holidays coming, forgiveness takes on a new meaning. How do you cope with knowing the other woman is the one who'll be celebrating with your husband or ex? Forgiving him for infidelity is one thing, but are you able to forgive her? What if she was your best friend?
Are you having a hard time telling people about your separation or impending divorce? Here's how I finally told my mother. Her response was a surprise.