Julie Danielson is a mom of 2 tween boys, a MBA and CPC, and she was divorced once. She now knows the lessons she was meant to learn from that experience and hopes to pass them on to help other women learn how to have their best life. Now happily re-married she juggles all the joys of adult step-kids, being a new and entirely too young grandmother, and co-parenting. Julie published an e-course for women to help them cope with the emotional side of divorce. Visit ThrivingThroughDivorce.com to sign up for a FREE webinar to learn more.
Sometimes childbirth does not go exactly as planned. I'm pretty sure it was not in the birth plan for me to take care of the ex-husband's girlfriend's dog while she had his baby. Yes it is weird. But I love my weird family and I am grateful for how I got here.
Coaching someone through divorce, or at all, needs to come from a person's desire to get help. If you push help upon them because you think they need it, they are not a willing participant. You can suggest and you can guide, but you cannot make someone change. Just like in marriage, they have to want it. Not for you, but for themselves.
When we divorce, we are faced once again with the huge decision to change our last name. This can give us an identity crisis, and it deserves a good hard look before that decision is made. Here are a few things to consider.
Women seek divorce more than men. Why is that happening? As a Women's Divorce Coach, I have summed it up to one basic model. Women seek closeness and vulnerability in marriage where, under the veil of marriage, it is safe to be real and raw with our chosen one, or soul mate. When she reaches out for that connected feeling and is met with the “wrong” response, she lays a brick down. Then one day the wall is to high to penetrate it. Women are disappointed and the husband doesn't even know what went wrong.
Saying “divorce is hard” is a huge understatement. Many people come out of it believing they will never get married again. But if you allow yourself to be brave and vulnerable, you just might find that love can be lovelier the second time around.