Cherie Morris is a lawyer, certified yoga teacher, mother, writer and Certified Divorce Coach. Cherie has four children of her own, two of whom are in college, and is part of a blended family. She is delighted to include her partner’s daughter and say they have a combined five. Vicki Vollweiler is a Certified Divorce Coach with her MBA. Vicki, the perpetual analyst, is the mother of two and strives to focus on the best interests of self and family, both emotionally and financially before, during and after divorce. Cherie and Vicki have co-founded Dear Divorce Coach to provide those facing the overwhelm of separation and divorce with information, support and guidance. You can reach Cherie and Vicki by email at: firstname.lastname@example.org. An initial consultation is always free, so please feel free to reach out to us.
Your experience in separation and divorce is likely not like driving a car on a straight road. There are bumps and hurdles and some hairpin turns, likely. So, what makes us able to navigate the unanticipated turns gracefully enough to pull away when disaster may otherwise strike? That really depends on you.
When you are in the midst of separation or divorce, you likely need help to calm the chaos and overwhelm. It is important that you have someone who is an objective thinking partner to help you.
The very best way to ensure that you are acting in the best interest of yourself and those who depend on you is to create a framework for decision-making. The process you develop now will allow you to know, with some certainty, that you have made the best decisions you can and also allow changes, as circumstances require, without introducing chaos and upheaval.
How can it possibly be that allowing emotion is better than allowing the head to rule the heart? It’s really quite simple: your emotion will find a way out. If you can take these three steps wherever you find yourself in the process now, you will be well-served and have better results for yourself and your loved ones in divorce.
Holidays during separation and divorce can be difficult. Valentine’s Day, in particular, when the world would have you believe everyone else has someone to love, has unique challenges. Use this time to remember that you are lovable and take good care of yourself. Sometimes, the focus needs to be on self-care so that you remember your value. Starting right now can help you carry this practice forward every day. There are many ways to do this that include relaxation and remembering activities that you enjoy. Treat yourself as well as you treat your loved ones, and remind yourself that what you care about does matter. This will help create a mindset to move forward in a way that allows you to begin to happily anticipate the rest of your life. Learn again to thrive and not just survive. You deserve it!