Joint custody has much more to do with decision making that it has to do with the actual time spent with your children.
In order to "normalize" the post-divorce co-parenting situation as much as possible, you need to make all communication clear – with your children and with your ex-spouse.
What you can't do when a custody battle is brewing, is "nothing". Recognize that divorce changes the roles for everyone and that you need to get familiar with your children's schedules, activities, and schools.
For years, mothers won primary child custody in the vast majority of divorce cases. But the tide has been shifting: most states abolished the tender-years doctrine in 1994, and women have become a much more substantial portion of the workforce over the last 40 years, while more men have become stay-at-home fathers.
The "I'm Free At Last!" attitude is dangerous for divorcing fathers. Your mission is your children's happiness and security – which you cannot provide if you are not available to them.
In order to be considered for custody or even joint custody you need to put aside your differences when it comes to children.
Douglas Mckee explains the different kind of custody to help you make the decision of which type of custody would work best for your children, family and parenting situation.
You need to consider the type of custody that you feel is in your children`s best interests and why their interests are most important.
Douglas McKee gives the advice not to compete with your ex-wife because your parenting after divorce is not a competition for love.
One of the mistakes fathers make is being absent from their children`s lives and activities. Get to know your children's daycare providers and teachers because they are respected in the courtroom.
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