Well, as with spouses, the impact of a parent's addiction on children varies greatly from person to person. You know, we all experience things differently. Normally the older that a child is, the more aware that the child is, no matter what the other parent does, that his or her parent is impaired. The child sees it in bloodshot eyes and senses it in mood behavior changes. In fact, younger children are actually much more oriented toward perceptual cues as opposed to actually seeing and speaking to their parent about addictive behavior because they aren’t able to express themselves through expressive language the way that older children are.
But all children have some degree of impact by the behavior of their addicted parent. So, normally what we look for is signs of the child having an inability to cope with daily life. The same sorts of things that we look for in the addicted parent, is he or she functioning at work? Is he or she able to sustain relationships? We look for those same types of cues in children. Is the child able to engage in school? Is the child able to make good grades, stay on course? Is the child starting to act out? Perhaps the child is engaged in aggressive behavior or perhaps, clingy to one parent versus another because the child is afraid of what's going on in his or her household. So, you really have to look at the personality of a child to kind of get some signs of whether or not a child is being adversely impacted. But I think most people would start with the premise that a child is inherently adversely impacted when a parent is impaired, whether those signs are showing up by something quantifiable as a drop in school grades or something more esoteric like, you know, a change in mood or affect.
Allison Williams is a Union, New Jersey family lawyer who is certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a matrimonial law attorney. To learn more about Allison, visit her firm's online profile or her website www.newjerseydyfsdefense.com.Back To Top