The following is the third segment in a 13-part series based on the book, Divorce: It's All About Control — How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars, by renowned family law specialist and managing partner of Phillips Lerner, A Law Corporation in Los Angeles, Calif. This continuing series deals with one of the most destructive wars — the Internal Wars — and the Enemies Within, all of which can be just as devastating as the emotional, psychological and legal wars. As I mentioned in segment one of this series, each of the Internal Wars deals with self-abuse in one way or another. This segment focuses on gambling.
It is not a theory but a known fact that most of those who gamble will eventually lose. If that were not the case, resorts such as Las Vegas, Monte Carlo and Atlantic City would soon be out of business. Bookmakers would have to find another way to make a living, and the people who manufacture poker chips would have to start making potato chips instead! Fighting the Gambling War can be as arduous as fighting any of the other "Way Too Much" Wars because once you dig a deep enough hole, it can take years of payback and rehabilitation to recover. Gambling is a drug of sorts. At first those who engage in it think they will just "try it" yet soon they find themselves deeply addicted. There is the allure of thinking you can get something for nothing.
Those who have gambling addictions are typically fighting other wars simultaneously. For instance, many of those who gamble also drink, or overspend, or eat too much. These types are headed down a dark trail. If you find yourself counted among the troops who are at War with this Enemy, glance over the following. Hopefully you will find some alternate ways to assuage your cravings. If you are in the grip of the Gambling Enemy you may want to recite the following out loud:
If you are caught up in the "gambling trap" now would be a very good time to make your own list of reasons why you should shed this addiction. By all means do not be chintzy with your reasons as they may be very personal ones and ones that will convince you to walk off this battlefield.
Stacy D. Phillips is a co-founder of Phillips Lerner, A Law Corporation, which specializes in high-profile family law matters. She is co-chair of the Women's Political Committee and a member of Divorce Magazine's North American Advisory Board. She can be reached at (310) 277-7117. View her firm's Divorce Magazine profile here.