Products and tips to help you through this stressful time.
You've probably heard that a dog is man's best friend, but did you know that Fido -- or Fluffy -- can help you and your kids recover from the stresses of divorce?
"Scientific research shows that people who own pets can live healthier, happier lives," says Maryellen Elcock, MPH, Ph.D., vice president of programs for the Delta Society, the leading international resource for the human-animal bond. "Studies have shown that pets can improve psychological well-being, decrease feelings of loneliness and isolation, and reduce stress and depression. There is also a body of literature that demonstrates specific physiologic changes as a result of interacting with animals; among these are reducing blood pressure, pulse rate, and cholesterol levels."
During separation and divorce, she adds, a companion animal can provide a feeling of safety as well as the experience of intimacy. "The non-judgmental presence of an animal may have healing effects on all family members during a time of crisis. There is no question that the human-animal bond can influence physiologic responses and this in turn may translate into improved health and well-being."
If you're a pet owner, you already know how good your four-legged friend can make you feel. And now, science has proved what we've always known. Here are just a few examples:
The experience of divorce is traumatic enough to disrupt anyone's sleep. If you're not sleeping well at night, you can't be fully alert -- let alone vibrant -- during the day. Emotional stress can be a major sleep-stealer: feelings of sadness or worry make it particularly hard to fall or stay asleep.
Even if you manage to fall asleep, you may not be experiencing the "right kind" of sleep -- the kind that refreshes and invigorates you. Here are a few tips to help you get a good night's sleep:
Can't sleep, can't stay awake, can't eat, eating all the time, can't remember anything? Feeling anxious, irritable, clumsy, tired, or overwhelmed by stuff you used to be able to handle with your eyes closed? Experiencing unexplained headaches, muscle aches, hair loss, weight gain/loss? If any of this sounds familiar, you may be suffering from stress. Except for the death of a spouse or child, divorce produces more stress than any other life event, so it's not surprising if you're feeling a bit (or a lot) "over the edge" right now.
Divorce-related stress is unavoidable, but you can learn to manage your stress so that it doesn't seriously damage your body and spirit. After working with more than 2,000 women in a stress-reduction program, Dr. Vern Cherewatenko (M.D.) has created a breakthrough program for treating the disease of stressful living. He shares his findings in The Stress Cure: A Simple 7-Step Plan to Balance Mood, Improve Memory, and Restore Energy (HarperResource, 2003).
The first part of The Stress Cure includes a detailed self-assessment; Part II shows you how to implement Dr. Cherewatenko's "De-STRESS" program. Designed to revive the body's ability to heal itself, the program focuses on making changes in seven distinct areas:
And you won't have to wait long to see the results: "Within days of starting The Stress Cure, [participants] felt as though a mysterious veil of gloom had been lifted," says Cherewatenko. One patient said that: "It was like the world had color again."
The Stress Cure is available at online and retail bookstores everywhere; for more information, go to www.HarperCollins.com.
Remember when your mother told you to "Stop making that face or it will get stuck like that"? Well, it turns out Mom wasn't completely wrong after all. The researchers at Vichy Laboratoires have identified a new type of aging: called "Myo-aging," it's caused by the natural and repeated movements made by facial expressions. When you frown, for instance, folds form in the skin. These folds smooth out when you stop frowning, but as you age, your skin loses its ability to relax and the folds become permanent. These "dermo-contractions" trigger the appearance of wrinkles, determining their shape, location, and number.
To combat this, Vichy has created Myokine, a cream that claims to visibly reduce the wrinkles caused by skin contractions. The cream combines Magnesium and Adenosine -- both of which inhibit cellular contraction -- with Adenoxine, a patented dermo-decontractor. Myokine promises visible results in as little as six days: your skin will be more radiant and toned, and fine lines will have been smoothed out. After 21 days, deeper wrinkles will be smoothed; after three months, you could experience a 36% reduction in the length and number of wrinkles.
Now that you've taken a few years off your face, why not take a few more? Lancome Paris has created Renergie Lift Makeup, a combination of skincare and foundation designed to reduce and conceal wrinkles. The new Micro-liftª technology "irons-out" and lifts the skin -- like wearing an ultra-fine, supple veil. Plant extracts help the skin combat aging while glycol and tri-ceramides help it to retain water. The flexible micro-bubbles maintain the foundation in suspension above the skin's surface, shading out wrinkles and letting the skin breathe. The makeup also offers UVA and UVB protection, as well as Vitamin E to help fight free-radical damage. You can combine this foundation with the whole Renergie line, or use it alone.
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