"I'm unsure whether to mediate my divorce. Am I risking anything by choosing that route?"
People often ask me, when they are not sure whether or not to mediate, whether or not they should try it. My response is that there is nothing lost. One of the advantages of mediation is that you are there voluntarily. If you decide whether or not you want to proceed in another way, you are always free to do that. But, once you started litigating a divorce, it's really hard to go in another direction.
Douglas Schoenberg is an accredited divorce mediator (NJPAM), attorney, practitioner member of the Academy of Family Mediators in Summit, NJ.