A divorce attorney sees the divorce from the perspective of his client. His object is to get more for his client, and less for the other side. Unfortunately, that approach doesn’t always work, because there is an adversarial attorney on the other side as well. A mediator looks at the divorce from the perspective of the entire family: "How can everybody go one with their lives as quickly as possible, in a way that allows everybody to go one with their lives?"
Douglas Schoenberg is an accredited divorce mediator (NJPAM), attorney, practitioner member of the Academy of Family Mediators in Summit, NJ.