Divorce presents very difficult challenges to your children and if they do not have a safe place to talk about their fears, concerns, and worries, the impact can be bad in both the short term and the long term. Each of your children is going to experience the divorce differently. Some might place the responsibility for the divorce on their own shoulders. Others might be angry at one parent or both. Still others might not have the skills to talk about their emotions. A therapist can assist in improving these and other situations.
A therapist can also work with you and your child or children to help you have difficult conversations about the divorce and all that it has brought up. The presence of a trained third person can alleviate those overwhelming feelings and bring them out into the open, where they can be managed more effectively. A therapist can also educate you and your children about what is going on emotionally and physiologically. Certain behaviors that seem out of the ordinary can be given context and normalized. And in addressing specific problems that arise, a therapist can help you and your children design effective plans of action.
Thomas J. Petrelli, Jr. is a partner at Sacks, Weston & Petrelli , focusing on cases of divorce and related matters, support, custody, and parental rights. He can be reached at (215) 645-4297.