Some even think Christmas is a catalyst for divorce, as the first few months of the year represent the time when divorces are at their peak, thanks to a mixture of the stresses of the holiday season and a large number of people who were waiting until these supposedly-happy times were out of the way before ending a relationship.
Over the festive period, couples are forced to spend a lot of time together, which can bring to the surface any underlying problems in the relationship. The New Year also brings a sense of optimism for the year ahead, which can also be a motivating factor in ending an unhappy relationship for those wanting a new start.
The process of divorce can be a very stressful one, whether it was initiated by you or by your partner. This can seem all the worse when it is set in contrast with happy times just a month or two before. While nothing can make a divorce easy, there are a number of things you can do to help you get through a post-holiday divorce.
This point works on two levels. Firstly, it is important to keep things as calm as possible from an emotional level, notably in terms of your relationship with your partner. Try to avoid getting into excessively fiery arguments or saying hurtful things out of spite, and especially avoid doing so in front of the children.
Secondly, try to ensure that the lifestyle changes divorce necessitates proceed in a calm and gentle way rather than giving yourself emotional whiplash by leaping into all of them at once. There is probably no reason to move out of the family home at the very first opportunity or to insist your former partner do so. Do not abruptly cut off your partner financially if you are the breadwinner, and generally try to go through the whole process with care rather than rushing into any of the big steps.
Do not send any communications that you would not want to be seen by a judge. Naturally, a divorce is a stressful, emotional time, and there is usually more than a little animosity. Ultimately, what makes you feel better for a couple of minutes could make you look very bad indeed when it comes to making arrangements and settlements. This applies to social media, too.
Of course you are only human, and even the most saintly of people sometimes say things they regret. If you do send something you shouldn't have, don't try to get rid of it. Explaining away a heat-of-the-moment text or email is going to be much easier than explaining an attempt to destroy evidence.
Divorce can be a difficult process in practical as well as emotional terms. It is a potentially complex legal process, and unless you want to be left floundering and at a disadvantage in negotiations, it is important to get professional legal help and advice from the earliest possible stage.
It is also important that you try hard to work with your lawyer as effectively as you can. While your lawyer has the legal expertise, it is you who is personally engaged in the situation. Just as you are relying on them to help you through the legal processes, they are relying on you to keep them informed and in the loop so they can do their best for you at all times.
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