A few words of warning

Jill Burrett and Michael Green explain when shared parenting doesn't work for children.

By Jill Burrett and Michael Green
Updated: August 14, 2014
Parenting and Step-Families

Shared parenting doesn’t work for children when:

  • There are very high levels of intractable conflict between the parents
  • The parents are more focused on getting their fair share of time than on the real interests of their children
  • It’s a regime imposed because the parents couldn’t come to an amicable arrangement, and they lack the goodwill to make it work
  • A parent has plenty of time technically with the children but is not really there for them
  • A parent’s inattention causes children to feel unsettled or like visitors
  • Children do not feel at home in both households
  • There is inflexibility about the arrangements over time

Shared Parending

This article has been edited and excerpted with permission from Shared Parenting: Raising Your Children Cooperatively After Separation. Copyright © 2009 by Jill Burrett and Michael Green, Celestial Arts, an imprint of Ten Speed Press, a division of the Crown Publishing Group, Berkeley, CA. Click Shared Parenting to get more information about this book.


Other articles from Shared Parenting: Raising Your Children Cooperatively After Separation

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November 17, 2010
Categories:  Children and Divorce

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