Learn your legal rights!
Divorce FAQ videos
|< previous page|
|Divorce Isn’t Easy, But It’s Doable
By Susan Pease Gadoua
Divorce is the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass.
Getting a divorce is terrifying for the average person under average circumstances. Unlike other aspects of life, it does not necessarily get easier once you start the process. In fact, as you learn more about the legalities and finances, and as you get deeper into tasks such as dividing assets and debts, negotiating child custody, and addressing home, money, and job issues, it usually gets more difficult.
Just as you turn your life over to a surgeon when undergoing an operation, in a divorce you are asked to turn your well-being over to a number of different professionals, such as accountants, attorneys, and counselors. Having to trust these people with your financial and emotional welfare can certainly feel as though your life depends on their performance.
However, as daunting as it is, thousands of people divorce every day. The key to having a better divorce is to make sure you get all the support you need. For many people, this support is a divorce team that addresses their legal, financial, and emotional needs.
Although the process is not a linear one (meaning that it doesn’t necessarily get better or easier with time), keep in mind that this ordeal will end, life will return to “normal” again, and you will regain your strength.
Just as we physically recover from surgery, our minds, hearts, and spirits recuperate from marital dissolution. It’s a difficult process, even under the best of circumstances, but you will survive, and there is a new life awaiting you on the other side.
I will survive this ordeal.
Other articles by Susan Pease Gadoua
For more articles on divorce recovery, visit http://www.divorcemag.com/articles/Divorce_Recovery.
|Robin Thicke and Paula Patton Announce Mutual Separation After 20 Years Together
The Captain and Tennille File for Divorce
Eliot Spitzer and Silda Wall Spitzer File for Divorce
|FREE Divorce Teleseminars
To Educate and Empower