Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce
- "What are some of the signs that your partner is cheating?"
Couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "The clearest sign that your partner is cheating involve changes in their behavior, such as changes in their normal routine and changes in how they do or don't express their affection for you.
There are visual, physical and intuitive signs. The visual include lipstick on the collar, changes in your partner's appearance and habit while the physical include emails, text messages, phone bills and the intuitive are your instincts that tell you something is not right..."
- "If you suspect your partner of cheating how should you approach them?"
Couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "You should approach your partner directly but not in an attacking, accusatory way. You want to focus on your feelings, your fear, on where your suspicion comes from, and on your desire for the truth.
How you talk to your partner, especially in an emotionally charged situation like this is important. We recommend that you calm yourself, ask your partner for a good time to talk and sit down with him/her and say what you have noticed and what you suspect rather than accusing, yelling, or blaming. It is important that you be honest with yourself that you are ready for the truth; otherwise we invite our partner to not tell us the truth..."
- "If somebody has cheated before is there a chance that they'll cheat again?"
Couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "The chances they will cheat again are very good unless they take responsibility for it as a mistake and sincerely work on themselves and both partners work on their part in the problems in their LTLR. By doing this kind of personal and relationship work it is more likely that the person will never cheat again because s/he is no longer willing or wanting to compromise his/her integrity and their relationship..."
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