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• You can only control what you can only control. This is a very important statement to remember when you are going through the process. You can't control your husband or your wife. You can't control the court. You can't control the process. You must only control what you can only control. Focus on what you need to have a better life, and go forward.

• Action causes reaction: 3 simple words to live by. What you do now will have consequences. Whether on the financial end or the custody end or the parenting end. What you say to your children and what you do with your money will have repercussions.

• Get up, get in, get out. You don't want to have the court system anymore than you need to. Follow those 3 simple tidbits of advice, and you'll get through the process a lot easier. 

Chris L. Garibian is the founder of Garibian LLC, a New Jersey law firm limited in practice to family law and related matters. He can be reached at (973) 267-7333. View his Divorce Magazine profile here.