The second good reason is control. Do you really want to give the control over the decisions about your life to a judge or an arbitrator? No, you want to be empowered to make decisions that are good for you, your kids, and even your ex-spouse.

And number three: cost. Although your mediator may charge what any divorce attorney would charge, you're sharing in the expenses in proportion to income. Additionally, because you're always meeting together, you're saving in time, energy, and cost that would accumulate with various attorneys calling each other, and you're also saving on court costs: you're not going to court or subpoenaing documents. Still, you can exchange documents in a very safe environment, but you're saving a tremendous amount of money, and why shouldn't you? You need the money for your life afterward, instead of giving the money to the attorneys and the court. You need to save the money for both you and your ex-spouse and for your children's sake.