• Apartment Rental/Real Estate issues
• Child Custody issues
• Child Support issues
• Collaborative Family Law issues
• Financial issues

• Infidelity
• Legal issues
• Mediation issues
• Relationship/Emotional issues

• "What do I need to bring with me when I go to rent an apartment?"
  Apartment-rental expert Colleen Lambros answers: "Once you have chosen your apartment, the following information will be needed..."
• "What kinds of decisions will I need to make when renting an apartment?"
  Apartment-rental expert Colleen Lambros answers: "First, do you want to rent an apartment on your own, or will you share with a roommate?..."
• "What should I expect when renting an apartment from month-to-month?"
  Apartment-rental expert Colleen Lambros answers: "Month-to-month leases are also available for an additional monthly premium charge..."
• "How do I know if I qualify for an affordable rental housing program?"
  Apartment-rental expert Colleen Lambros answers: "Many affordable rental housing programs exist in order to reduce the rents of those who qualify..."

Child Custody issues:

• "I am worried that my ex-husband is going to abduct our two children and flee when he has access. Is there anything I can do to prevent this?"
  Los Angeles, CA divorce lawyer and mediator Pauline Rosen answers: "California Family Code section 3048 provides the statutory framework for such orders..."
• "I have been the sole provider for my child. The father's name is not on the birth certificate. Does this automatically give me full custody?"
  Calabasas, California divorce lawyer Marshall Waller answers: "You do not 'automatically' receive custody of your child in any contested environment..."
• "How is custody and visitation of our child(ren) determined?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer Richard Renkin answers: "It is the policy of California divorce law to assure children continuing contact with both parents after the parents have separated..."
• "My ex and I tend to adhere to our visitation schedule pretty closely. But sometimes, when I do need a little flexibility, she won't 'give.'  What can I do?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Stacy Phillips answers: "It's time to get your best diplomacy skills in order. The marriage is over, but raising the children isn't..."
• "How is child custody decided?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer Georgine Brave answers: "If the parties agree on a parenting plan, the judge will make it into an order. Generally, the parents share joint custody..."
• "I read in the newspaper recently about an interesting custody arrangement called 'bird nesting.' What does this option entail -- and how do I know it would work for us?"
  Orange County divorce attorney-mediator Mari Frank answers: "'Bird nesting' is when the children 'get' the house. Both parents move out and establish separate residences..."
• "How do we arrive at the right parenting plan for our children?"
  Southern California family-law attorney Brian Don Levy answers: "There are as many parenting plans as parents. It is a family-oriented issue, and each family is different..."
• "How can I, as a father, increase my chances of being awarded the primary custody of my children?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer-mediator Pauline Rosen answers: "To increase your likelihood of receiving substantial parenting time with your child, spend your time parenting..."
• "We've been raising our grandchildren. My husband may leave me if we let our daughter have custody of them. How do I deal with this?"
  Los Angeles family lawyer Steve Mindel answers: "The issue of grandparents' rights has become more important as societal norms have changed..."
• "Can a paternal father take his child away from the present father?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Steve Mindel answers: "The answer to your question is not simple. The courts have routinely found that being the parent is more than DNA..."
• "How do the courts in California determine custody and visitation?"
  Beverly Hills divorce lawyers T. Elizabeth Fields, Esq. and Kathyrne L. Clark answer: "The custody and visitation schedule is often the most hotly contested issue in a divorce..."
• "My wife is going for sole custody of our two children. I'm afraid she is going to take them and move to New York State, where she has family. What can I do?"
  San Diego divorce attorney James Scott answers: "In San Diego we continuously see "move-away" issues due to military families, corporate moves, and real estate..."

Child Support issues:

• "My husband is unemployed and says he can't pay the child and/or spousal support he owes me. Is there anything I can do?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyers Stacy Phillips and Ram Cogan answer: "In these difficult economic times, requests for downward modifications of support have skyrocketed..."
• "I've been ordered to pay an amount of child and/or spousal support that I can't afford. What are my options?"
  Los Angeles family law attorney Robyn Santucci answers: "You have several options, depending on your circumstances..."
• "I have a child-support order and a wage assignment in place to ensure payment from my son's father?"
  Calabasas, CA divorce attorney Marshall Waller answers: "You have many choices in this context. You can consider filing an order to show..."
• "I've been ordered to pay an amount of child and/or spousal support that I can't afford. What are my options?"
  Los Angeles, California divorce attorney Stacy Phillips answers: "If the court has ordered that you pay an amount, you will have to pay it unless and until..."
• "How can I get out from under child support for an adult?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Steve Mindel answers: "It sounds as though your child's mother is unable to control your son..."
• "As a custodial parent, why should I consider opening a case with the local Department of Child Support Services? Isn't it just for custodial parties on welfare?"
  The Department of Child Support Services answers: "Any parent or guardian who has primary custody of a child can apply for the services offered by DCSS..."
• "How do I open a child support case with the Department Of Child Support Services?"
  The Department of Child Support Services answers: "Start by completing an application for child support services..."
• "How does the Department of Child Support Services go about enforcing child support orders?"
  The Department of Child Support Services answers: "DCSS is here to help parents and guardians with their child support, legal, collection and accounting needs..."

Collaborative Family Law issues:

• "What are some of the advantages of choosing Collaborative Divorce?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer-mediator Shawn Weber answers: "Collaborative Divorce is the alternative to the traditional divorce. It enables parties to..."
• "Who should consider using Collaborative Divorce?"
  San Diego family lawyer and mediator Julia Garwood answers: "Collaborative Divorce is a really interesting concept..."
• "What is Collaborative Divorce?"
  San Francisco divorce lawyer Pauline Tesler answers: "Collaborative Divorce is a way of handling all divorce-related issues entirely outside the court system..."
• "How does Collaborative Divorce work?"
  San Francisco divorce attorney Pauline Tesler answers: "Each partner or spouse chooses a collaborative lawyer who has had special training so that..."
• "How is Collaborative Divorce different from litigation?"
  San Francisco family lawyer Pauline Tesler answers: "In a litigation approach to divorce, the lawyers are in charge. You take your problems to them, and..."
• "How is Collaborative Divorce different from mediation?"
  San Francisco family law attorney Pauline Tesler answers: "In mediation, one neutral mediator sits at a table with you and your partner and tries to..."
• "How do I know if Collaborative Divorce is right for me?"
  San Francisco, California divorce lawyer Pauline Tesler answers: "The best way to find out is to sit down and talk with a trained collaborative lawyer..."
• "Is Collaborative Divorce expensive?"
  San Francisco, California divorce attorney Pauline Tesler answers: "You should understand that you’re going to have well-trained professionals, and..."
• "In a Collaborative Divorce, can I still go to court if I choose to?"
  San Francisco, California family lawyer Pauline Tesler answers: "You never give up your right to take issues to court, if that's what you want. But if you do that..."
• "Who makes up the Collaborative Divorce team?"
  San Francisco, California family law attorney Pauline Tesler answers: "On a Collaborative Divorce team, usually the first professionals that will be hired are..."
• "How will a Collaborative Divorce affect my children?"
  San Francisco, CA divorce lawyer Pauline Tesler answers: "In a Collaborative Divorce, we have a child specialist on the team who is a very skilled..."
• "I suspect my husband is hiding assets. Is Collaborative Divorce right for us?"
  San Francisco, CA divorce attorney Pauline Tesler answers: "It's very common at the end of a marriage for suspicion to run high, particularly if..."
• "My wife is very controlling. Will a Collaborative Divorce work for us?"
  San Francisco, CA family lawyer Pauline Tesler answers: "Well, if your wife is controlling, she’s going to be controlling in the divorce process, including..."
• "We have a lot of assets to divide. Is Collaborative Divorce appropriate -- or even wise?"
  Newport Beach, CA divorce lawyer John Denny answers: "In Collaborative Divorce, there is a neutral financial professional whose job is to..."
• "My wife is very controlling. Will Collaborative Divorce work for us?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Jeffrey P. Bollinger answers: "Nothing is certain -- not Collaborative Divorce, not litigation, not mediation..."
• "I'd like to resolve my divorce as quickly and inexpensively as possible, but my wife and I just can't stop fighting. Is it still possible to use Collaborative Divorce?"
  Orange County family law attorney John Denny answers: "If the two of you can agree on using the collaborative process and commit yourselves to the process..."
• "My husband says we'll save a lot of money using the collaborative approach because we will share a lawyer. Is that really how collaborative law works?"
  San Diego divorce attorney-mediator Shawn Weber answers: "One of the hallmarks of collaborative family law is that each of you has your own divorce lawyer..."
• "My husband says we'll save a lot of money using the collaborative approach because we will share a lawyer. Is that really how collaborative law works?"
  Orange County, California divorce attorney-mediator Mari Frank answers: "The intention of collaborative law, as with mediation, is to provide an alternative to a court battle..."
• "What is collaborative family law?"
  Southern California divorce attorney Brian Don Levy answers: "Collaborative family law is a powerful way for people who are divorcing to reach fair solutions..."
• "Can collaborative family law help me to settle my divorce more amicably? How is it different from divorce mediation?"
  Redondo Beach, California divorce attorney Pauline Rosen answers: "Collaborative family law and divorce mediation are both excellent alternatives to litigation..."
• "What is Collaborative Divorce?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Ron Supancic answers: "Collaborative Divorce is a new paradigm for conflict resolution in dissolution of marriage..."
• "What are the advantages of Collaborative Divorce?"
  Los Angeles family lawyer Ron Supancic answers: "Sessions are held in private, keeping many details out of the public record..."

Financial/property issues:

• "I'm concerned that my credit is going to be affected as I go through my divorce; what can I do to protect myself?"
  Orange County Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Paul Toohey answers: "What you can do to protect your credit when you're going through a divorce is..."
• "What are the most common financial mistakes people make during a divorce?"
  Orange County CDFA and CFP Paul Toohey answers: "Here are the most common mistakes that I see people make in divorce..."
• "I want a divorce, but I am not sure I can afford it. What should I do?"
  Orange County, California Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Paul Toohey answers: "That's a good reason to hire a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst..."
• "I am thinking of getting a divorce. What is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst?"
  Orange County, California CDFA and CFP Paul Toohey answers: "A CDFA, or Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, is a financial professional with..."
• "Is it better to take more of the marital property, such as a house or IRA, instead of spousal support?"
  Orange County, CA Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Paul Toohey answers: "It really depends on your individual circumstances. That will include..."
• "My business is worth more than $20 million. Is my spouse entitled to a share of it?"
  San Diego divorce attorney Georgine Brave answers: "California is a community-property state. If a business was started during the marriage..."
• "My husband and I have considerable assets. How can I be sure I'll get my fair share?"
  San Diego, California family lawyer Julie Mack answers: "California divorce law requires full disclosure of all known assets and debts..."
• "My wife and I signed off on the basic terms of our divorce agreement six months ago. The value of our assets has dropped substantially since then, but she won't take a penny less. What can I do?"
  San Diego family lawyer Roy Doppelt answers: "In San Diego, many assets have decreased in value significantly in 2007, 2008, and now in 2009..."
• "I'm worried that this divorce is going to ruin me financially. Do you have any tips to prevent this?"
  San Diego Certified Public Accountant Ginita Wall answers: "No matter how well you do financially in the divorce, it can be scary..."
• "How is it determined which of our property is marital and which is separate?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney-mediator Pauline Rosen answers: "Separate property in California divorce law is property acquired before marriage or..."
• "I want to keep the house but I'm afraid I won't be able to afford it over the long term. How can I be sure?"
  San Diego CPA and CFP Ginita Wall answers: "A home is often the largest marital asset. It is also the most difficult to divide in divorce..."
• "I am not sure my attorney has a good handle on the financial aspects of my divorce. What are my options?"
  Orange County CDFA and CFP Paul Toohey answers: "You have several options. You could hire a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst..."
• "My career was raising the kids. My attorney mentioned I would be entitled to Social Security benefits via my ex-husband's record. How does this work?"
  San Diego CPA and CFP Ginita Wall answers: "If you were married for ten years, you will be eligible to collect Social Security benefits..."
• "I'm not certain my lawyer has a good handle on the financial aspects of my divorce; I'm not convinced I'm getting my fair share. What should I do?"
  Orange County divorce lawyer-mediator Mari Frank answers: "Since your spouse has property, it is critical to employ a forensic accountant..."
• "If I file for divorce, how can I protect certain assets (family heirlooms, etc.) from my ex?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "Just know that the family heirlooms given to you by your family do rightfully belong to you..."
• "Is it better to give or receive one large lump-sum payment up-front than monthly spousal-support payments?"
  San Diego CPA and CFP Ginita Wall answers: "For most couples, lump-sum spousal support looks appealing. Here's the reality..."
• "I'm worried that my spouse will try to hide assets from me. How can I be sure I get a fair share of his business and other assets?"
  San Diego CPA and CFP Ginita Wall answers: "First, assemble all of the information you can. Take an inventory of your household contents..."
• "Are alimony and child support taxable? If so, is there any way of structuring support payments to my ex to lower my taxes?"
  San Diego CPA and CFP Ginita Wall answers: "Child support is never deductible or taxable. It is assigned by the courts under a formula not open to negotiation..."
• "How should we deal with our marital debt? We owe more than we own, and I don't want to end up holding the bag because I earn more than my spouse."
  San Diego CPA and CFP Ginita Wall answers: "Money problems often contribute to marriage problems; it's not unusual for people contemplating divorce to have debt problems..."
• "What advantages does apartment living offer over home ownership?"
  Apartment-rental expert Colleen Lambros answers: "The convenience of maintenance-free living affords renters appealing lifestyle options..."
• "My wife worked for many years for a major corporation while I was self employed. How can I be sure I'll receive my fair share of her pension?"
  Southern California financial planners Stephanie Maloney and Jerry Cohen answer: "There are two methods to value pensions in a divorce settlement..."
• "I'm worried that my spouse will try to hide assets from me. How can I be sure I get a fair share of the business and other assets?"
  Southern California CPA David Fox answers: "Divorce is an emotional event, so one spouse may suspect the other is hiding assets to keep them out of the divorce settlement..."
• "I am overwhelmed with debt and bills from my divorce. What can I do?"
  California credit expert Gerri Detweiler answers: "Life after divorce can be stressful, with trying to adjust to your new life without your ex..."
• "My spouse owns a successful company. Now that we're getting a divorce, what kind of expert should I hire to appraise the company?"
  Southern California CPA David Fox answers: "A forensic accountant should be retained to appraise the company..."
• "How can I make sure I receive my fair share of my husband's pension?"
  Orange County family-law attorney Aaron Dishon answers: "In many cases, the parties' pension plan is one of the largest assets in the divorce..."
• "Is it better to take more marital property -- like the house -- instead of spousal support or a part of a pension?"
  Southern California financial planner Stephanie Maloney answers: "It depends. Making a decision of whether to take more marital property is a crucial one..."

Infidelity issues:

• "What percentage of marriages or relationships will be affected by infidelity?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "There is no exact number for the rate of infidelity in our society..."
• "When there has been infidelity what are the chances of the couple staying together?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "The chances of a couple staying together after an infidelity are better than most people think..."
• "Does the person who had the affair have to 'come clean' to improve the chances of the relationship working or should they keep the affair to themselves?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "Openness, honesty, and the lack of deceit are vital for long-term relationship success..."
• "Is it possible for a couple to truly 'get over' an infidelity?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "Not only can they overcome it, but they can use it to spur them to work on their relationship..."
• "What do you offer your clients/readers that 'affair-proofs' their relationship?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "We teach Three Intimacies: Self Intimacy, Conflict Intimacy and Affection Intimacy..."
• "What are some of the signs that your partner is cheating?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "The clearest sign that your partner is cheating involves changes in their behavior..."
• "If you suspect your partner of cheating how should you approach them?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "You should approach your partner directly but not in an attacking, accusatory way..."
• "If somebody has cheated before is there a chance that they'll cheat again?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "The chances are very good unless they take responsibility for it and work on themselves..."
• "Is it possible for couples to have affairs and still retain a strong relationship if they're in agreement that having affairs is OK?"
  Southern California couples therapist Steven Solomon answers: "We've never seen it to be true over the long-term..."

Legal issues:

• "I'm just starting my divorce. Can you give me your best tips?"
  San Diego, California family-law attorney Georgine Brave answers: "Studies have shown that divorce is the most traumatic part of life, save the death of a spouse..."
• "My spouse just asked me for a divorce. What should I do first?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer-mediator Julia Garwood answers: "I would suggest that you start collecting and copying all bank statements..."
• "I am just starting my divorce. Can you give me your best tips?"
  San Diego divorce attorney and mediator Julia Garwood answers: "If you have children, keep a journal of the timeshare -- and perhaps also..."
• "Will it affect my divorce if I date other people?"
  San Diego family lawyer and mediator Julia Garwood answers: "As a practicality, we have irreconcilable differences as a reason for dissolution..."
• "Under what circumstances can I annul my marriage, rather than get a divorce?"
  Los Angeles, California divorce lawyer Azita Avedissian answers: "A divorce is the remedy to terminate a valid marriage, on grounds arising "after" the marriage..."
• "My husband left me more than ten years ago, and I have no idea where he is now. How can I get a divorce from him?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer Roy Doppelt answers: "In order to obtain a divorce, you must file the Petition and Summons and serve these..."
• "I'm in the middle of a divorce but have already fallen in love with somebody else. Is it legal to get engaged before the divorce is final? If so, will it affect the divorce outcome?"
  Los Angeles, California family law attorney John Lazor answers: "Getting divorced is perhaps the most emotionally traumatic experience people go through..."
• "I am in the middle of a divorce but have already fallen in love with somebody else. Is it legal to get engaged before the divorce is final? If so, will it affect the divorce outcome?"
  Los Angeles, California divorce attorney Azita Avedissian answers: "California law defines a dating relationship as an "intimate association primarily characterized by..."
• "How does a military divorce differ from a civilian divorce?"
  San Diego divorce attorney Roy Doppelt answers: "In San Diego County, many spouses divorce with either one or both in the military..."
• "I supported my wife through medical school, and now she is a successful plastic surgeon. Am I entitled to a share of her practice?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer David Shebby answers: "Depending upon the specific circumstances of your marriage and what happens between separation and trial..."
• "What are your tips on finding the best divorce lawyer?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer-mediator Adryenn Cantor answers: "Because people have different needs, the best divorce lawyer will depend upon..."
• "My ex-wife has custody of our children, and she wants to move across the country with them. Can she do this?"
  Los Angeles, CA divorce lawyer and mediator Pauline Rosen answers: "California courts are guided primarily by the California Supreme Court's decision..."
• "What are your tips for finding the best divorce lawyer?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Stacy Phillips answers: "Finding the best divorce lawyer is a two-pronged answer. First..."
• "My lawyer tells me I'm eligible for spousal support, but I feel so guilty about my affair that I'm not sure I want to take money from my husband. What should I do?"
  Orange County divorce attorney-mediator Mari Frank answers: "Guilt is an emotion that you must learn to release, since it can't change the past..."
• "My divorce lawyer tells me I'm eligible for spousal support, but I feel so guilty about my affair that I'm not sure I want to take money from my husband. What should I do?"
  Los Angeles family lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "This is a personal decision that should be governed not by your feelings but rather your sensibilities..."
• "My spouse left me more than ten years ago, and I have no idea where he is now. How can I get a divorce from him?"
  Los Angeles family-law attorney Stacy Phillips answers: "Often, when you cannot locate a former spouse, you can do 'service by publication'..."
• "We were only married for two years and don't have a lot of assets. Do we really have to go through the whole divorce process?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "A marriage license is a legal contract, just like any other contract, and you have to dissolve it..."
• "My spouse has had several affairs; it's one of the reasons we split up. Can I use this against him in the divorce proceedings?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Stacy Phillips answers: "In some states, proof of adultery can impact the division of property and even support..."
• "What can I do if my divorce lawyer wants to quit my case? The court date is approaching, and I don't know where else to turn."
  Los Angeles family lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "Your divorce attorney cannot quit until you agree or the court allows him or her to do so..."
• "My registered domestic partner and I are experiencing irreconcilable differences. We need to go through something like divorce. How would that work?"
  Los Angeles family-law attorney Howard Klein answers: "For most domestic partnerships, the Family Court has exclusive jurisdiction over the dissolution..."
• "Is it true that whatever my spouse and I discuss during one-on-one negotiations cannot be used against me in court? I hear that's covered by 'spousal privilege'."
  Southern California divorce lawyer Mark Gross answers: "The inadmissibility of negotiations and spousal privilege are like apples and oranges..."
• "My divorce attorney keeps telling me to keep my emotions in check -- but how does one go about doing that during an emotionally charged event like divorce? Do you have any tips?"
  Los Angeles family-law attorney Stacy Phillips answers: "Keeping your emotions in check, as hard as that may seem for you, is crucial..."
• "How can I maintain confidentiality and financial privacy in my divorce?"
  Orange County divorce lawyer-mediator Mari Frank answers: "In most states when you file documents in a divorce, they become public record..."
• "I feel my divorce settlement was unfair. I'd like to appeal my case. How do I begin -- and how do I know if I've got a chance at the appeal?"
  Orange County appellate lawyer Brian Saylin answers: "Generally, except in rare instances, one cannot appeal from a stipulation or agreement..."
• "I have a fairly uncomplicated divorce case -- is it possible or even advisable to hire a divorce attorney just for certain parts of the case? How would that work?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Fern Salka answers: "The legal system calls what you are asking about "unbundled" services..."
• "What should I expect in terms of communication from my divorce attorney?"
  Southern California divorce attorney Mark Gross answers: "Your communication level with your family-law attorney can make you feel secure or insecure..."
• "My spouse and I are about to divorce, and I'm concerned that the divorce process is going to disrupt my business. What can I do to protect myself from interference from her and her divorce lawyer?"
  Orange County family-law attorney-mediator Mari Frank answers: "You have a fiduciary duty to disclose information about that business to the court..."
• "Is it possible to change a court order or judgement? My ex-wife recently married a very wealthy man and I'd like to stop making child and spousal support payments."
  Orange County appellate attorney Brian Saylin answers: "The earnings of a new mate cannot be used to calculate child support except in extraordinary circumstances..."
• "If you live in a common-law marriage, are you entitled to the same support and property division as if you were legally married?"
  Southern California family lawyer Mark Gross answers: "California divorce law does not recognize common-law marriage. However..."
• "Can I leave the marital home? Can I make my spouse leave the marital home?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "If you do leave, take the children with you, or make sure you have a child custody/visitation plan in place.."
• "How long will my divorce take?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Fern Salka answers: "In California, there is a mandatory waiting period of six months..."
• "My spouse wants a divorce. I don't. How can I fight it?"
  Southern California family-law attorney Mark Gross answers: "It takes two people to make a marriage, and one person to make a divorce..."
• "How do I prepare for the possibility of divorce?"
  Los Angeles family lawyer Steve Mindel answers: "It sounds like you are at the beginning of determining whether your marriage is worth salvaging..."
• "Is there anything I can do to legally force my husband back to work?"
  Los Angeles family-law attorney Steve Mindel answers: "You're facing the classic societal role-reversal situation..."
• "If you date as soon as you're separated, will it legally affect the outcome of your divorce in any way?"
  San Diego divorce attorney Georgine Brave answers: "There are legal, emotional, and child custody/visitation issues to consider..."
• "My case is somewhat complicated. Do I need to hire a lawyer who specializes in divorce? Will a specialist be more expensive than a 'regular' lawyer?"
  San Diego family lawyer Georgine Brave answers: "A Certified Family Law Specialist has passed an exam and met other requirements..."
• "I have committed adultery. Will my spouse get the lion's share of everything, including property and higher-than-usual support?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Stacy Phillips answers: "In a nutshell, adultery is a non-issue in California divorce law..."
• "If your ex-spouse fails to pay for debts he/she acquired while you were married, can his/her creditors come after you for payment?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Steve Mindel answers: "Virtually all debts acquired while married by either spouse are deemed community-property debts..."
• "How can I fire my lawyer? Under what conditions?"
  San Diego family-law attorney Georgine Brave answers: "Every party has the absolute right to any divorce attorney of his/her choice..."
• "What if I don't like my divorce lawyer's tactics and strategies? Can I get a second legal opinion without firing my lawyer?"
  Los Angeles family lawyer Fern Salka answers: "Most family-law attorneys charge by the hour to act as consultants..."
• "Can one divorce attorney represent both my spouse and me? I think it would save us time and money."
  Los Angeles family lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "There are a number of options available for couples that have decided to end their marriages..."
• "If a divorce involves complex issues, can you still use a mediator?"
  Orange County family lawyer and mediator Mari Frank answers: "In the divorce mediation process, the parties can agree to use neutral experts to simplify the issues..."
• "After our divorce becomes final, am I entitled to any of my ex-spouse's Social Security, retirement, or disability benefits?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer Georgine Brave answers: "California divorce law states that any asset acquired during the marriage by either party is a community asset..."
• "What are some of the questions one should ask a prospective divorce attorney?"
  Orange County divorce attorney Aaron Dishon answers: "It's important to carefully choose your divorce attorney..."
• "If a marriage breaks down because one spouse declares he or she is gay, will the courts award custody to the heterosexual spouse?"
  Los Angeles divorce lawyer Rosaline Zuckerman answers: "The basic standard in most states in awarding custody is the best interests of the children..."
• "Is it true that going to court is the only way to ensure you'll get your fair share?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Ron Supancic answers: "When you go to court, you get the product of distributive bargaining..."
• "I want to mediate our divorce, but my spouse is bent on going to court. What can I do?"
  San Diego family lawyer Paul Staley answers: "For better or for worse, everyone in this country has a right to his/her day in court..."
• "A friend told me that women always do worse in divorce mediation than in the traditional process. How can I be sure I won't get ripped off?"
  Southern California family-law attorney-mediator Genell Greenberg answers: "Your concern that women may be disadvantaged arises out of two stereotypes..."
• "If both divorce lawyers are settlement-minded, why spend more money on a mediator?"
  San Diego family-law attorney Delene St. John answers: "Understanding how a mediator's role differs from a divorce attorney's is crucial in determining how to use them..."
• "Is it true that you are automatically entitled to receive spousal support for a percentage of the number of years you were married?"
  Orange County family lawyer Aaron Dishon answers: "Two issues arise with regard to spousal support: the amount and the duration..."
• "Can you modify a prenuptial, post-nuptial, or divorce agreement?"
  Pasadena, California divorce lawyer-mediator Anthony Hill answers: "A prenuptial agreement is a very helpful tool for those contemplating 'tying the knot.'..."
• "Can I object to the amount of fees charged by my divorce lawyer?"
  Los Angeles divorce attorney Rosaline Zuckerman answers: "When first interviewing your attorney, you should decide if you can afford that law firm's services..."
• "Should I tell my divorce lawyer everything? There are certain things I'd like to keep to myself."
  Southern California family lawyer Debra Caligiuri answers: "It's really difficult at times to be completely honest with your divorce lawyer..."
• "I don't feel like my lawyer is answering my questions. What can I do to change this?"
  Los Angeles family lawyer Rosaline Zuckerman answers: "In family-law matters, finding a comfort level with your selected professional representative is critical..."
• "How does a mediator differ from a divorce lawyer? Are attorneys involved in divorce mediation?"
  San Diego divorce attorney-mediator William Eddy answers: "In divorce mediation, the mediator meets with both of the parties as a neutral person..."
• "Can I make modifications to my Divorce Decree? My circumstances have changed, and I'm going to need more support."
  Los Angeles family-law attorney Rosaline Zuckerman answers: "Depending on your circumstances, and the terms of the Final Judgment..."
• "Is it all right to date or have a sexual relationship with my divorce lawyer?"
  Divorce lawyer-mediator Robert Burg answers: "In law, there is something called 'the appearance of impropriety'..."

Mediation issues:

• "As a mediation professor, tell us what is most important in the process."
  Orange County divorce lawyer-mediator Mari Frank answers: "The real beauty of divorce mediation is confidentiality. And confidentiality leads to trust..."
• "Why should divorcing couples consider mediation?"
  Orange County divorce attorney-mediator Mari Frank answers: "The three top reasons to consider divorce mediation over litigation are these..."
• "What is the difference between confidentiality and privacy, and why is it important?"
  Orange County, California family lawyer-mediator Mari Frank answers: "It's a great question, regarding the difference between confidentiality and privacy..."
• "What are the most important attributes of an effective divorce mediator?"
  Orange County, California family-law attorney and mediator Mari Frank answers: "An effective mediator wears many hats. One of the hats is that of an educator..."
• "How can you learn about divorce mediation?"
  Orange County, CA divorce lawyer-mediator Mari Frank answers: "If you're interested in mediation to resolve the issues of your divorce, it's very important that you..."
• "My friends have warned me that mediation doesn't work well with men. Is this true?"
  San Diego, California divorce lawyer-mediator Shawn Weber answers: "That's an interesting question that I've received from many people of both genders..."
• "Who shouldn't use mediation? Can it work for couples who argue a lot, for instance?"
  San Diego family-law attorney and mediator Julia Garwood answers: "Some people use divorce mediation just to gather information to use against the other party..."
• "What is divorce mediation?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer and mediator Julia Garwood answers: "At the end of this process, the mediator's office creates a settlement agreement..."
• "How long does mediation usually take? Are there ways to speed up the process?"
  Orange County CA divorce attorney-mediator Mari Frank answers: "Mediation is a collaborative process in which you as the client have the power to..."
• "Is divorce mediation right for you?"
  San Diego divorce attorney-mediator Julia Garwood answers: "I believe that mediation is the way of the future. Couples are generally more willing to..."
• "What if we try divorce mediation and it doesn't work out? Do we have to go to court, or are there other options?"
  Pasadena, CA divorce mediator John Juarez answers: "There is very little downside to divorce mediation, even if you don't reach a mutual agreement..."
• "How long does mediation usually take? Are there ways to speed up the process?"
  Sacramento, California divorce lawyer-mediator Hal Bartholomew answers: "Those are two difficult questions. Estimation of time is problematic for a mediator..."
• "What are the benefits of divorce mediation?"
  San Diego family lawyer and mediator Julia Garwood answers: "Mediation is a confidential, practical, and effective way to resolve problems with the help of..."
• "I want to mediate my divorce, but my spouse is so full of bitterness and anger that he refuses. What can I do?"
  Orange County divorce lawyer-mediator Mari Frank answers: "Bitterness and anger often accompany divorce..."
• "How can I know if my legal rights are being protected during divorce mediation?"
  San Diego family-law attorney and mediator Shawn Weber answers: "Your mediator should have explained to you that he or she cannot ethically give legal advice..."
• "What should I consider when choosing a divorce mediator?"
  Orange County divorce attorney and mediator Mari Frank answers: "You may wish to ask the following questions when choosing a divorce-mediation professional..."
• "My wife wants to mediate our case because she says we will save money by not having to hire divorce lawyers. My friends say we will still need to have a divorce lawyer involved. Who's right?"
  Pasadena, California divorce mediator John Juarez answers: "The goal of divorce mediation is for the couple to reach a mutually acceptable agreement..."
• "Given that my soon to be ex-spouse and I fight so much, is it possible to mediate our divorce?"
  Orange County family lawyer-mediator Mari Frank answers: "Most people going through a divorce are not getting along, and yes, they fight..."
• "What should I consider when choosing a divorce mediator?"
  San Diego divorce lawyer-mediator William Eddy answers: "In choosing a divorce mediator, the main concerns are relevant knowledge and experience..."

Emotional/Relationship issues:

• "How do I ask my spouse for a divorce?"
  San Diego divorce attorney Julie Mack answers: "It is very common for one spouse to be ready to act long before the other spouse..."
• "Does Grief Recovery apply to losses other than death?"
  Southern California grief-recovery expert Russell Friedman answers: "While it's obvious that death is a grief-producing event, what may not be so obvious..."
• "Why do children become easily manipulated to hate a parent that they once loved?"
  Los Angeles, California parent educator Jayne Major answers: "Children are suggestible, and they easily believe what the badmouthing parent is saying..."
• "How do attorneys and judges contribute to parent alienation?"
  Los Angeles, CA parent educator Jayne Major answers: "Unless a child has been appointed a minor's counsel, they are not represented in court..."
• "Why don't therapy, parent education, mediation, and anger management work for obsessed alienating parents?"
  Los Angeles, California parent educator Jayne Major answers: "These intervention programs do work in moderate cases of parental alienation..."
• "Can the bullying parent who undermines the other parent's rightful place in a child's life improve with an intervention program?"
  Los Angeles, CA parent educator Jayne Major answers: "In this court population, there is a high probability that the bullying parents are sociopaths..."
• "What happens if the parent doesn't succeed in rescuing their children from an obsessed alienator?"
  Los Angeles, California parent educator Jayne Major answers: "These are the most painful, heart-wrenchingly difficult cases in family-law court..."
• "My husband and I have been living together during our separation because we cannot sell our house nor afford two properties. How can we make our situation better?"
  Orange County divorce lawyer and mediator Mari Frank answers: "I assume you mean emotionally better as well as financially workable..."
• "I've heard of people having 'divorce ceremonies'. What's that all about?"
  Charlotte Eulette, the North American Director of the Celebrant Foundation, answers: "In a ceremony of this kind, friends and family gather for their honored friend..."
• "My new stepchildren treat me like a doormat. My own kids are starting to talk back to me, too. What can I do to improve the situation?"
  Los Angeles, California divorce lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "You can start with a discussion with your spouse. Let him or her know..."
• "What is Parental Alienation Syndrome?"
  Los Angeles, California family lawyer Stacy Phillips answers: "This syndrome is when one parent attempts to turn the child(ren) against the other parent or..."
• "How do I lay the groundwork for a healthy co-parenting relationship post-divorce?"
  Pasadena, California divorce mediator Pamela Britton White answers: "In any divorce, there is a gift that you can give to your children..."
• "Should I change my name back to my maiden name?"
  Orange County family-law attorney and mediator Mari Frank answers: "Many women want to change their name back to their maiden name..."
• "How do I know if I have a problem with controlling/repressing my anger?"
  Los Angeles marriage and family therapist Andrea Brandt answers: "Many of you already know that you have a problem with anger..."
• "Do I have to do anything to recover from divorce, or does time heal all wounds?"
  Southern California grief-recovery expert Russell Freidman answers: "I recently received a call from a man still reeling from a divorce two years ago..."
• "Should we stay together for the sake of the kids? If so, how long?"
  Los Angeles marriage and family therapist Andrea Brandt answers: "If you are contemplating divorce, you must be questioning the best interests of all concerned..."
• "I didn't plan to wind up here. How can I take back control of my life?"
  Los Angeles motivational speakers The Momentum Group answer: "Imagine you are building a house based on whim and what attracts your eye day to day..."
• "My husband's ex-wife is ruining our marriage. She calls whenever she has a problem; he feels guilty for leaving her. What should I do?"
  Los Angeles marriage and family therapist Andrea Brandt answers: "Depending on how long you've been living with this, your frustration may turn into fear and anger..."